My DS is a year old and i’m really starting to notice how negatively my mum phrases things when she speaks to or about him. When she visited in the week, she told him he was nosy, lazy and was ‘fake crying’ (he’s been feeling under the weather and definitely wasn’t faking anything - also, he’s a year old). He loves watching people (hence ‘nosy’) and doesn’t like getting dressed (‘lazy’).
Does anyone else have a parent like this? I’ve tried saying something along the lines of ‘yes, he’s really curious/interested isn’t he?’, but it doesn’t seem to get through. He understands a lot more than he can express and although I’m challenging mum’s choice of words in a way, I don’t know if I’m doing enough?
I personally have a really negative inner critic (in my head, i’m lazy, never good enough), and i wonder now if this is where that stems from? I maybe overthinking it, but I’ve read about our inner voices/critics developing from our parents’ words to and about us. I really don’t want DS to grow up like I did because I was so deeply unhappy and insecure, and I want to do everything I can to help him develop his sense of self properly.
What do you think?