Hi. I will start off by saying, its not yet save that this is the permanent solution. I am exploring possibilities in my head, and i will take any advice I can get.
My husband (27) and I (25) are facing some changes in the coming the coming days and weeks. We will be, as of tomorrow, taking care of our nephew (8) and niece (11) from my husbands families side.
It was my husbands decision to take them until a permanent solution is found, which can mean we will take care of them permanently, or not. That being said, we will be their caretakers for the time being. I support this decision fully. And i will do my best with supporting him.
The reason I am anxious, Im not able to show empathy or emotions like a normal human. And the situation they come from will leave them with much to process. So my role is more so supporting my husband in being a good caretaker than me taking the same role as him.
We are already looking into prefessional help for them, so they dont get stuck in waiting lines.
My question, what can i still do to help them? What can i do to comfort and support them to make them feel save despite my own issues. They dont realy know me that well. So im afraid of coming across as too "direct, harsh, cold "whatever you want to call it. I literaly am wired different than a "normal" human. Im not incapable of understanding that something is difficult and/or traumatic for other ppl in general, but i am inherently more analytical about how deal with these things and how i face them and that might not be very helpful in their specific situation.
Also, with how kids are, i am afraid, if these "news" go around, the community they lived in is small, it will go around, that they will be targeted at school. How can we prepare for that? What to do when it happens?
Should we potentialy get in tighter contact with other parents and teachers?
And also, if what ive said above about myself, makes you feel like i am unfit, that is fair. I understand that and its something we are taking into consideration when figuring out the hopefully best longterm solution.
Still, for the time being, any advice to my questions, and things i might not be thinking about, is much appreciated.
Thank you.