Child left alone

[Than85]

Iv never been kings cross but recently found out via my child she was left alone in the lounge. Iv no idea for how long or for what we reason, mother refuses to answer my concerns. It clearly a busy station and no matter how long I'm just shocked. The snippets iv heard is she was getting tickets but surely carnt gain access to lounge without. Left to fill gaps and justify but I really am struggling to make any sense or reasoning.😢
I can only keep assuming the worst and the upset and fear my child went through. It's eating me alive with worry, this is one occasion I know of,how many other occasions I don't.
I carnt ask my child as dnt want to add unnecessary pressure and when I go anywhere near the subject she clams up and cries.
I need to get past it but struggling too without answers. The silent treatment from mum only makes me think it's worse than the little I know.
I found out via a phone I got her as there was concern parenting issues prior and have been since and read "where are you mummy?"
Any advice please 😥

Missed the update where said has phone

‘Avoidance of explanation’
they don’t have to explain themselves to you
How often does ex demand you explain yourself to her

I can only keep assuming the worst and the upset and fear my child went through. It's eating me alive with worry,
but you have no idea if the child was scared or upset? you are very emotive in your language in a way that doesn’t really feel necessary and is quite infantilising to your daughter.

I’m not sure why you were checking her phone if she only uses it to talk to you and her mum, this feels controlling.
And it is worrying that you’ve been quite aggressive to many posters who have simply politely disagreed with you. I can’t imagine that makes it easy for ex to communicate with you

if you have actual safeguarding concerns you absolutely should go to court to protect your daughter. If there’s form and history for this which it sounds like then again yes you should try to protect your daughter but through the proper channels not through grilling dc or her mum

You sound overbearing.

Yeah, you're abusive and controlling. I wouldn't want to be doing mediation with you either.

I could potentially agree if the child was younger, has developmental needs, or something had happened in that lounge.
Or maybe if they were left alone for longer.

Nothing happened. The child is 9. It wasn't a rough place or a street. At that age they need to start to be able to do things independently.

If an incident had happened, or something more serious emerged another time, then I'd understand this level of 'eating you alive ' concern.

I'm not siding with either of you, just stating how a third party would see this. My sibling is in this situation always over analysing worrying uneccessarily , trying to catch out his ex, and it makes him look so so bad.
Ultimately kids are placed with the person the system judged stable and possibly you have 50/50 split which indicates you're both doing well. If you do not, and continue this path, likely will be seen as controlling sadly and unable to get 50/50. I've seen it and it's like watching a car crash slowly happening and the kids are trapped.

Best of luck OP.