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Justrollingalong · 15/09/2025 16:12

My 9 year old daughter keeps getting left out with after school play dates, she’s been getting so upset thinking that her friends mums don’t like her because when they ask if my daughter can come round (on her own not with other friends) they always say no, we will arrange it another time, and that never happens…
but today her two best friends were having a play date, so I walked off from the mums and the my daughters friends because my daughter was upset we sat in the car for a while and then I saw the mums talking and another girl in the group also went to this play date leaving my daughter to be not included. Not sure how I should be feeling? I don’t really want to talk to the mums again to be honest because I can’t be bothered with drama and hate the fact they keep upsetting my daughter.

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LondonLady1980 · 15/09/2025 16:22

I mean all of this gently....

Why are you blaming the mums?

From my experience, when children reach the age of 9 it is the children who are choosing who they want to spend time with outside of school, not the parents.

When I arrange activities for my children outside of school I ask them which friends they want to invite, I don't make the choice for them.

Are you sure your daughter's friends like her as much as she thinks they do? (and again, I mean this kindly)

Skybluepinky · 15/09/2025 16:24

If the mums are friends that could be why, or it may just be your daughter is pestering children who don’t like her, a hard lesson.

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