7 year old hates me

[raiseyourglasss]

My daughter is only 7 and she tells me she hates me, she hates me for sending her to school, she hates me for not letting her do or have something, she hits me, swears at me, calls me horrible names and answers back.
She looks at me with such hate and contempt.

She is waiting to be assessed for nd so is struggling but I just wish she’d let me in and understand that I am the one who loves her and has her back no matter what and I am the one she can’t stand.

What do you do when she swears at you or hit you? Does it have consequences for her?

My 8 year old tells me I'm the worst parent ever (when he doesn't get what he wants) and answers back. I think that is normal.
The swearing and calling you names is not.
What consequences does she have for negative behaviour?

I try to but I run out of ideas, once I’ve taken away all her privileges and all her toys and cancelled everything she was looking forward to I don’t know what else to say because she’ll carry on regardless.
She’s an only child and I thought her and I would be so close but she sees me as an enemy.

Where is she learning all the swear words from?

My youngest (suspected ND) gets in a spiral of getting things taken away due to bad behaviour but then behaving worse because he thinks he doesn't have anything to lose. Have you tried giving her the opportunity to earn some privileges back for good behaviour or doing chores?

I wouldn’t be exaggerating if I said I was scared of her at times because she can turn so suddenly

Yes I do give her the option to earn things back and I have no idea where she gets the language from and I’ve never used bad language in front of her but she’s obviously heard the language somewhere, school or out and about and knows it’s bad language so she uses it for affect.