Partner taking a permanent night job

[Clairelh87]

As title says this is what my partner is wanting to do.
it’s causing massive arguments.
to the point we where shouting at each other today.
he has accepted at permanent night job working 7pm till 7am 5 nights in 3 off.
so if you start on a Monday night the next week will start on a Tuesday then a Wednesday and work your 5 nights.
i also work Monday to Friday full time between 8am and 6pm.
we also have a just 1 year old.
who has just started full time nursery.
now I can’t see this working. I think it’s unfair that he will be working nights coming home and sleeping all day and I work all day then have the baby all evening/night.
he said he will get home and sleep about 8am and wake up about 5.
he said he won’t be eating with us because it will be his breakfast time when it’s tea time etc.
he said he will go back to normal on his 3 days of and not sleep in the day and will come to bed as normal. Is that even possible?
he said at weekends when he’s working he will stay at his nans so he can sleep and the kids don’t wake him up.
am I being unfair how everything will fall on me even tho I’m working full time myself?
I don’t want to go to bed most nights on my own. At the moment we don’t have the closest of relationships as it is now he’s not even going to be here at night time.
it’s only a min wage job as well so it’s not even good money. Just being a ship hand.
he won’t listen he’s taking this job and I’ve even said it will split us up and he’s not even interested. He’s taking this job.
i don’t want to feel like a single parent.
a single parent that has a full time job and even at weekends will be on her own.
i am honestly thinking about ending the relationship because I don’t really get what I want out of it now never mind when he starts this job.
does anyone have a partner that works nights and can give me advice?

Just have to see how to goes.
can only try.
trying to look at the positives now. Time alone in the evening to read watch what I want. And have the bed to sleep in the middle 😃

Send him off to Nan’s permanently! 👋

Hi can I ask you for an update how's it been? I'm really annoyed with my husband he's decided to do very much the same thing as your partner without agreeing this. I have a full time day job it's very stressful and a 4 year old who is a major handful.

To make matters worse my husband is noisy and his shifts will be starting at 3 am this means he thinks he can get up in the middle of the night he stomps about slams doors early morning now. So I've told him he's in the spare room no way he's waking me in the night and I get he's trying to make us more money and the aim was to be back earlier he used to do 11am to 8 9 pm getting back at 10 some days have been 16 hours he's HGV it's crap. Now he's still not getting back until 6/7 bed then up again.

Now he's in bed at 6 7pm and we don't see him until he's off which don't match my days off. I'm more annoyed at how inconsiderate he is he's done something similar before went working away when our child was born and it wasn't even in his contract he stayed away about a year coming home 1 day a week. I've been a single parent from day 1. It makes me angry and I consider ending it because he's major selfish lots of other things but I honestly just think well I get my time and then let him earn extra but child misses out he's priority is money over family it's sad it will be too late when he realises. You can't take money with you family should be the priority. Hope you are getting on ok.