Behavioural Problems

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I have a lot of behavioural issues with my son who is 9 years old who thinks that he rules the roost (as they say) at home.
He thinks it’s Ok to get up through the night to go on an electrical device and watch YouTube this has now resulted in me putting codes on my TV/Apps, Remotes, mobiles & Tablet devices therefore this cannot be accessed.
Please tell me that I’m not the only parent that’s going through this ordeal every night as my last chore needing to do this with codes before I retire to bed.
He tries to overrule me too, I ask him not to do something that his done wrong/bad but will try and persist in carrying on & lashes out on myself & his big brother.
He can become really snappy and hit out.
Sometimes you have to ask him to do a simple task & it takes a few times to ask him over and over to do something & he can become lazy when I want him to do as he has asked the first time around t can become very draining.
He has had discipline for his antics but then when the discipline has ended it goes back to square one nothing ever seems to work with him. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated..

I’d cut right back on the access to electronics during the week. Maybe start watching some communal tv with him, on the actual tv, before bed. Like taskmaster. Then give him a good amount of screen time at the weekends.

Keep him busy with other things, this is so much easier in the warm weather. He needs to have opportunities to have fun that are interesting and exciting, daring, so he wants to be doing something that isn’t playing Fortnite or whatever.

Give him choices about things in his life. Make sure he knows he’s listened to.
Are you going to take your coat today?
What shall we get Steve for his birthday do you think?
Shall we go to the park with the flying fox on Sunday or the one with the climbing frame?

Maybe he could get involved in planning what you are going to eat for example.