6-8 year old parenting club birthday partys, homework and extracurricular decisions

[2in2022twoyearson]

Hi,
Anyone want to join me navigating this age of parenting? Children could be outside this age bracket.

There's lots of baby toddler advice groups and some teen groups but this age I feel a bit in the dark.

I have a soon to be 7 year old girl. She's amazing, loves school, but I often feel like I'm doing or saying the wrong thing to and with her. She's going through a stroppy stage, finds school tiring.

Me and her dad work a lot and we haven't signed her up to many extra curriculum clubs, some of her peers have done loads since reception.

We're planning her birthday party and she has lots of opinions about it, I'm feeling the pressure!

DH and I both started vomiting last night. Weve managed to make it to my parents but DH has another bout after 12 hours when he decided to have dilute apple juice. 3 year old seems have bounced back, which is tough because I'm still feeling crap but he's back to watching telly. Helsinki sounds fun. We're hopefully going to a theme park on Monday too.

Oh no! Hope you're all feeling better soon.

Having to buy new school shoes and about.half new school uniform. DDS school has a winter and summer uniform. Skirts the same across both and they still fit,. Plus one cardigan. Last time a went uniform shopping I got new uniform from large charity shop, something like 6 items for £5 of a random collection as they get donations from surplus stock off other shops. So I got a variety of sizes and brands of white shirts (winter uniform) and a pinafore dress that just fitted her without growing room, plus summer dresses in a variety of sizes...im hoping the age 11 will fit her this summer, she's mostly in 9-10 now allthough some brands of 8-9 shirts fitted her, having just turned 8. Tried on shoes she got at Easter and the toes definitely squashed already. They were a good quality bgreater pair. I'm not sure if I want to get her the same again or go for a cheaper pair of shoes that look decent....She did trip over less in her barefoot style shoes...

Generally everything is good here, getting a bit of backchat.

So glad i don't have to deal with school uniform. Def get the shoes she's more comfortable in.

DS is struggling, he's already forgetting to do homework and he's getting so upset at home and angry, its hard to deal with.

How are you doing? We've decided to start after school drama club. She's enjoying it, but equally I don't know if she should have more down time. Today, for example, DD had tears before and after school. Morning was a 5 minutes strop about around timings and her not being ready. At pick up she couldn't find her lunchbox. The TA was signing the children out and DD came and spoke to her 3 times, the 3rd time tearful, I spoke to the teacher she said she was telling her to have another look, and where I. The school she could go, build resilience, and if she still couldn't find it the teacher would go in. They couldn't find it together and she cried for the walk to the shops we were stopping at on the way home.

Oh poor girl :( Did she say why she couldn't find her lunch box? Its odd that it would disappear so much that it couldn't be found, that combined with the tears would make me wonder if some other child or children hid it and that's making it so upsetting for her.

We are struggling a bit here, DS is really struggling with emotions and anger, and has been saying he wants to kill himself when he's really upset. He said it at school too so now we're going to have a multidisciplinary meeting at the school next week with his teacher, special ed teacher, nurse and psychologist to try and find ways to help him. Also starting the ADHD diagnosis process.

No, I don't think she's hiding something, just generally feeling overwhelmed. The system they have is all the lunchboxes go on trolleys in the lunch hall and get taken to correct cloakrooms. So the teacher was getting her to check other year group trolleys. I think another child accidentally took hers. She did say there's another one the same from a younger year.

Oh no, that does sound really serious. Hope you get some good support in place

Ah ok, hopefully she gets it back today then when the other child's parents realise its the wrong one.

We're starting to get support from the school nurse, have some emotional regulation activities to try with him.

It did turn up in lost property the next day. After how she has been this week I was in two minds about taking them to messy church this Sunday. DD loves it, not quite as obsessed as she was but as it's exciting it has been a place of overwhelm for her too. She was happy until the end when her friends got on their bikes, .she didn't have hers and she just took the stabilisers off earlier today and she was cycling well. We live down a steep hill from it so not suitable, but her friends live mostly flat form the church. She was slightly grumpy just before that about where to sit as well, then at the end stormed away from an adult she wanted to show something to but it didn't quite go her way. I don't know if it's because they've got boys or because she's mostly so happy hand ultra polite because they looked a bit confused. This morning, we parents did a good job at making sure everything went smoothly. When I turned the TV off in plenty of time so it was the end of an episode she did glare at me, but that was all today and she went into school happy and is excited about a school trip tomorrow. She didn't even cover her ears and cry when DS was screaming about wearing a jumper, which would be her normal response.

@Natsku how is DS getting on, has he engaged much with the emotional regulation activities?

Glad it was found and that she's going into school happy. Hope the school trip goes well!

He's been talking a lot about how he calm down when angry, he wants to find out if he can take a stress toy to school to squeeze when upset or angry. There was an incident in school last week when he got pushed while playing football and got angry and hit his friend but yesterday he had football matches and got knocked over a few times but remained calm so some improvement. Got the meeting on Friday so shall see what they suggest there.

I'm keeping a diary of my daughter's behaviour, now I can see it's at least every other day she is having issues. She had a busy weekend, ended up crying at the end of her friends birthday party, as there was arcade type machines. Then didn't sleep well. I've been trying to get her to have a more substantial breakfast with protein instead of cereal, to help with her mood and general health. We don't manage it every day. But today I made for both of us porridge with nuts and seeds. She sat at the table with it, then I got kn with getting ready myself. Later she was on the sofa reading and I tied her hair up. She then had an argument with her younger brother after playing nicely but I could see she was the main offender, it was time to go to school, so I told her, but she threw her bag and her jumper off, telling me all her brothers wrongs. Eg she bent down and got aggressively in his face, maybe shouting and he hit her away so she cried about it. I got In the car I asked if she'd enjoyed the porridge and she had forgotten to eat it! So I told her to eat her pork pie. She hates being late though so when I just waited by the car ready and told her I'd wait she picked everything up and got in.