Xl bully

[Harleymum]

Hi I'm new here and really could do with advice I have 2 children between 4 an 6 an my ex partner is with sumone who has 4 dogs 1 is a xl bully 2 x staffs that I know of an sumthin else i have asked him when the children are there to have the dogs secured away as theses dogs r fully grown an don't no my kids last time they went over there (1st an last ) my ex was telling my children they could touch dogs through the cage that's a massive no from me he says they won't secure the dogs while my children r there so am I in the wrong to stop them goin there until this happens???

Do you have a court order?

I wouldn't be happy about it either.

No there's no court order in place

Absolutely NO CHANCE my kids would be in a house with an XL Bully. In a cage or not. No chance.

Then you can absolutely stop visitation, and he will have to take you to court where you can bring this up (I'm not sure what could be said/done about it though, you could maybe ask in Legal to see if anything could be enforced).

No way I would let my kid go there, I would say that he's welcome to see them at your house only

Do NOT let your children into a house with an XL bully.

Yea it's scary I've seen it only on vid call but it's a huge male plus with rest of he dogs scares life out of me plus sum r un neutered an I tried to explain this to ex it's like a pack an also that if girls r in heat a neutered male will still want them an I dread if my girls goy in the way 😕

If it’s an xl bully is it registered with the police?

speak to social services about what to do. Tell them your concerns and ask advice about how to facilitate contact.

in the meantime you could stop contact and get him to take you to court for it. Or you could negotiate contact away from his home. Better to get ss involved, hopefully they’ll visit and assess.

No way would I allow my children in the house with an xl bully. Your no1 job as a mum is to protect your children, your ex obviously isn’t going to do it so you need to stop them going to that house.