Did you have a preference on the sex of your baby?

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Just curious really, before children I wanted all girls if I could have chose but I now have a daughter and a son and I can’t believe I had a preference for girls only! It seems a lot of my friends have a preference for daughters too. Did you have a preference before you had your children?

I would love to experience both ideally but I will love any children that I’m lucky enough to have. I only have one at the moment and I had no preference with him because I wanted both.

Yes I wanted a girl. I am not sure why. I know some women want a girl to go clothes shopping with and hair and makeup and spa days and such like, but that has never been my thing. I did have an absolutely excellent girl's name picked, but we could not agree on a boy's, so I guess because of this I had already started to think of the baby as a girl and she had become a 'person to me'. When we were told it was boy at the scan, I remember thinking, ' but I know nothing about boys!!' But within about three hours I had worked through that and was happy to have a boy.

I have two boys now and could not be happier with them. One is into guns and war planes, one is into animals and creative play. Both are incredibly kind, loving, cuddly chaps.

Once they are here, you just love them for the amazing, unique people they are, because they are to you, aren't they?

I wanted one of each. No real preference between girls and boys.

For first no preference
For the second, I wanted another of the same as it was easier as I already had all the stuff

I wanted to have a daughter. I had four kids, two boys then two girls. Even though I wanted a girl I knew I wouldn't be the least bit 'disappointed' with a boy and when I had my boys I never once felt disappointed or wished that they were a girl.

I am really glad I had a mixture of boys and girls.

Yes had Girl Boy Girl really wanted a boy but 💯 wouldn't swap her now!

I didn't really have a preference but could only ever see myself as a boy mum. 39 weeks pregnant with my first child and he's infact a boy.. I feel even stronger about only seeing myself to have boys now!😂

It wasn’t a preference exactly. More like I was scared by the idea of having a girl (tricky relationship with my own mother) so somehow managed to convince myself a boy would be best. Then I had DD! Second time, I thought another girl would be best because it was what I already knew. Then I had DS!

I’m thrilled with both of them. Would’ve loved whatever I got lucky enough to have.

I knew I'd have girls too although would have loved either and whatever combination. As it happens, I'm having my second DD and knew in v early pregnancy with both that they were girls. Maternal instinct can be so strong.

Yep.. I've got 4 brothers and according to my DM if I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I said I'm going to be a Mum and have 4 girls!

I felt a millionth of a second disappointment after the birth of both my sons.. I have a DD in the middle..

And I felt the same millionth of a second disappointment finding out that both of my grandchildren were boys..
It's a feeling I can't explain.

I couldn't love all of my DC/GDC any more than I do..

I own the feeling that I felt at the time but I don't feel it now..

If you've never had a 'preference' you can't hope to understand why other people feel it..

I always really wanted a son - I had a little brother growing up who was 6 years younger than me and I was completely and utterly besotted by him when he was born and I remember, even at 6 years old, thinking "i can't wait to have a son one day and I hope he has blonde hair like my little brother"

Funnily enough, 14 years later I had my blonde haired little boy

This is so lovely 🤗

I wanted a girl and got a girl and then hoped for a second girl but had a boy. At first I was worried as I'd been treated pretty badly by men and didn't think I wanted one but I fell instantly in love with him and he is the most amazing little boy I can't believe I could ever have had those feelings.
Once they're here they're just people.

I originally wanted at least 1 girl as I come from a girl family and it was all I knew! I ended up with all boys. I realised after my 1st boy was born that gender was irrelevant so didn't have a preference moving forwards.

Above all I wanted my baby to be healthy but secretly wanted a girl over a boy (didn't tell anyone this). I also felt it was going to be a girl, and she is!

Yes same only wanted girls

Me and my wife are lesbians so we wanted a girl because we're both women.

I also wanted a girl because I love being a woman. I also love other women, and the relationships we have with each other. I think women form a closer community than men, and we look out for each other more than men. I guess we've had to under patriarchy. That's why I wanted a daughter. I would also feel immense pressure to raise a kind, empathetic, polite man under patriarchy. I can't think of anything worse than having a son then he grows up to be the worst sort of man.

In many ways I'm more suited to boys, as I'm really not traditionally girly and love video games and DnD, but I think all that stuff is just stereotypes anyway.

I have an 8mo DD and love her. I think I'd be just as obsessed if she was a boy. I'd like a second in the future and would love her to have a sister, but I have no personal preference. I won't find out next time and will just be excited for the surprise.

I always wanted 2 boys then a girl. Now I have 2 boys I'm content with that, no desire to try for another.

But if you had a preference and couldn't explain the feeling, how would people without a preference understand it?

I had a reason for wanting a boy, but I'd never say it out loud.

I wanted at least one girl, and had DD first. Wasn't bothered the next time, but I'm happy with DS. He's adorable.

I wanted one of each with a mild preference for a girl first and then a boy. That's exactly what I got! I would have been completely happy with two boys or two girls.

I assumed DC1 was a girl and was a bit shocked/upset when I found out he was a boy. But when I fell pregnant again with DC2 I really wanted him to be a boy (which he is). I love having boys.

It's complicated. I lost boys before DS1 was born at 17 and 12 weeks and DS2 at 27 weeks after DS1 was born. When I was expecting again I desperately wanted another boy to replace my boys. I was pg again very quickly and if I'd know the baby was a girl at 20 weeks I might not have coped well.

We found out when she was born and in that adrenalin filled moment our dreams were answered and it was just perfect.

What surprised me was the number of comments "oh typical you, hitting the jackpot, a boy and then a girl". It was as though the previous five years were erased in people's memories. I hit the jackpot because I had a healthy baby, 51 weeks after ds2 died.

I genuinely just was delighted to be having a baby. If pressed I did have a preference for a girl.. it’s interesting trying to work out why that is and why it seems to be the norm. I guess we lean to wanting one of our own gender to be able to relate to their experiences throughout life and possibly to enjoy spending time together when they reach adulthood (I know most of my best friends are female).

Anyway, I got all girls so I can’t comment on what I wouldn’t have felt if it was a boy other than I would have loved him exactly the same! DH did want a boy but loves our girls fiercely.

Had a slight preference for a girl both pregnancies and got two boys 🤣 of course I love them to pieces and glad how it worked out. Feel sad now when I read the countless 'disappointed I am having a boy' threads. They are ace 😊