35 month old not going to bed

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We put our 35 month old to bed at 6.30/7 but after we have left the room she very regularly will then get up again and play alone in her room for hours- 9.30/10 not uncommon (she is still up now). We have trained her not to leave her room and disturb us so it isn't too disruptive but I'm beginning to worry we are really sleep deprive her, or it is somehow a bit abnormal that she is so independent. Or are we just lucky?

My 192 month old does this too. 🙄

I’m 624 months old and I say it sounds fine.

Lucky you can't be arsed to parent?

One of mine is 312 months old today and is the same. Sometimes up until the early hours. Shocking really. Worse is they'll leave their room too. I don't know if it ever stops tbh.

35 month old wtf 🤣 just say 3 year old at this stage

Re: amount of sleep. It completely depends what time she’s waking up in the morning and if she is napping or not.

Im not sure I’d call a child who isn’t quite 3 spending hours alone because she has been trained not to disturb their parents ‘lucky’. It sounds abnormally independent to be honest.

You're not lucky you muppet. She's not independent. You bloody trained her. God's sake.

Please say that's a typo!! 35 months old 🤣🤣

I'm not sure anyone is lucky here!! 🤣🤣

I used to just let mine stay up a bit later when they went through a similar phase when they were 3

My 197 months old is still up playing on her phone, too. She is however very well trained and stays in her room. This sometimes becomes an issue when she has to leave the room for school.

Is this for real? Why have you trained your 3 year old to stay away from you?! What about their safety playing alone in a different room for hours on end. Madness.

35 month old??? The child is almost 3.

My 660 month old has just gone to bed alone. He’ll look at his iPad for a bit but I bet he’ll be asleep when I go up.

I'm not even going to ask how you train a little one to play alone in their room and not disturb you....But since you have then provided she's safe (unless you're going to change her bed time) you can't make the poor mite sleep so I'd leave her to it.

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how many of you googled how many months your child above 3 is??

Anyone else have their calculator out to work out all the ages? 😂

I'm 456 months old and still can't divide by 12 in my head 😁

I wonder if she's lonely.

Your child is nearly 3. You have trained her not to disturb you for your convenience. Thankfully she has not so far come to harm despite being left along for such a long period each evening. Probably too scared to let you know if there is a problem. No one is lucky in this situation. Just start being a parent. She clearly doesn't need as much sleep as some other children so let her stay up later. In other words start parenting.

It sounds very sad for your 35 month old that you’ve trained her to be alone and not bother you for 3 hours.
That is not normal at all and your child sounds abnormally detached from you. It’s also not normal that you think this might be ok.

If she still naps, that’s not unusual. Most of the three year old nappers I know are up until 9:30/10pm.

That said, I don’t know any that aren’t with their parents… I’m not sure it’s lucky, or something to be celebrated; that she’s spending hours on her own each evening.

You need to move her bedtime.

Seriously , what’s with the amount of months they are & not years !!!! 😂😂

I wouldn’t leave any child play alone in their room , so that I wouldn’t be disturbed in a million Gazillions !!!
She is not even 3 , small parts in toys they could choke on , fell & banged head , 100 different things …
I’m not saying this to make you feel bad OP , just to make you aware …..

This has got to be a troll post 😁. Rule number 1 in the ‘how to wind up mumsnetters’ handbook… refer to your child’s age in months.

I totally ahre. I suspect this is yet another thread when the OP won't come back. Probably thought they were so superior and clever and now discovering that other people do not agree with that assessment.

As others have said, it's rubbish and lazy parenting!

Why on earth would you send your 3 year old to their room at 6.30/7pm?! That's way too early. If they're playing until at least 9.30, take them upstairs at 8.45 and then spend 30 minutes engaging with them!!!

I remember reading a baby book from the 1930s. A memorable piece of advice was 'Put your baby to bed at 10pm after their last feed and have nothing further to do with them until 7am.' You're being worryingly harsh, OP. Poor child.