35 month old not going to bed

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We put our 35 month old to bed at 6.30/7 but after we have left the room she very regularly will then get up again and play alone in her room for hours- 9.30/10 not uncommon (she is still up now). We have trained her not to leave her room and disturb us so it isn't too disruptive but I'm beginning to worry we are really sleep deprive her, or it is somehow a bit abnormal that she is so independent. Or are we just lucky?

Yes it's quite unusual she's happy to just play alone for that amount of time. Does she not ever call for you or anything?

So true!

Did anyone else just have to use a calculator.

My 2 year old, or 28 month old, whichever you prefer goes to bed at 7-7:30. Surely at 35 months 6:30-7 is too early? Do you even like your child? I understand wanting a little break when they're doing your nut in but 3 fucking hours is awful

Thanks all. Good to know. She seems very happy (lots of dancing round, talking to her bears, putting on Yoto, and doesn't cry (if she does we go to her)), but noted re our maybe having lowered expectations.

And yes she's 3 basically.

This 636 month old is playing on their tablet at 10pm.

Please explain to us exactly HOW you trained your still-awake 3 year old to stay quietly in their room, amusing themselves, without disturbing you, from 7 pm to 10 pm. That sounds like an interesting process.

Our 2 year old happily reads books and plays in his room by himself when settling down for bed. He has never tried to exit the room, which isn't gated. There is a camera so we watch him playing. The oldest one... polar opposite. Comes out 50 times, refuses to go to bed. Excuses galore. We didn't train either of them, maybe should have!

Mines 192 months old. Can't get the bugger out of bed!

Came here to say things get better by 206 months (in fact so much better I can't get him out of his pit) but see others have experienced similar

Whatever about anything else , stop leaving her alone in her room incase anything happens to her , cause it isn’t her sleep schedule or Mumsnet or anything else in this world that will bother you then …
I hope you take this advice ….

Well I'm nearly 661 months old, I can spend hours in my room alone, playing with my toys. But I occasionally sneak out if I either need new batteries.. Or a wee...
In all seriousness, I cannot believe you don't want to be disturbed by your own child! Sounds quite harsh to me, poor kid! A child isn't an accessory to be put away when you've done with it! I can understand having a specific bedtime, but to "train" your child not to leave their room? Mad!

Is your 35 month old, in fact, a dog? You’ve trained her?

😂😂😂😂

Literally just now! 😂 I’m 520 months old.

This has to be a fake post, you leave your 3 year old to play by themselves for 3 hours every evening, that's shocking and neglect.

Is she behaving as if she is sleep deprived? If so, you need to be putting her TO BED, not just in her room, a lot earlier. If not, be glad you have an independent child and crack on.

I'm sure if I left the room my 32 month old would do likewise, but I don't, one of us is with him until he's asleep. Is she napping? If so, time to stop it. My son goes to sleep 8.30 on nap days, 7 on non nap days.

What level of neglect trains a three year old to spend hours alone and not seek out her parents.

Your whole post is weird. And a bit sad. So basically your THREE YEAR OLD (fkin 35 months...) just knows you'll ignore her and so she doesn't bother leaving her room but gets out bed and plays , like THREE YEAR OLDS do if you don't bother to parent them.

Oh and my child is 64 months and 19 days.

Clearly bedtime is too early!

DD is 34 months (although normally I’d just call her “almost 3”) and if I tried to put her to bed before 8pm she’s be playing us up! 7.30 comes around and she’s ready for teeth, books and cuddles and happily goes to bed.

Surely it would be more beneficial to push bedtime back a bit and have a bit of real quality time with them before bedtime and help them wind down?

Her bedtime is clearly way too early! It's not OK to leave her alone for 3 hours because you've trained her not to come out or ask for you. Some independent play is great, sure, but this is an extreme.

How on earth do you train a two-year-old little girl to not leave her room if not gently encouraging her to return to her bed? This sounds incredibly sad for your little one. We are all exhausted by bedtime but your daughter needs a secure, comforting bedtime routine.

Are these the same people who describe themselves as 37 weeks +4 pregnant?

agree!