My adult teenage daughter has admitted to shoplifting. she has been producing lots of new makeup and clothes and acting strange in shops so I had suspicions, and when I asked her she said yes she stole them. We are totally shocked, she is on a gap year about to start uni in sept, and is struggling to get a job and has run out of money.
My husband and I immediately said that this is not acceptable and illegal and 'what were you thinking' etc, I've taken the items shes stolen and given them to charity and insisted she pays the value to charity also. We are checking all the jobs shes applying for and recommended she does voluntary work until a job comes. We don't give her any money, she is 18 and needs to get a job. But I am asking for proof everytime she buys things now.
She has a trust fund that we've said is for helping out with living costs when she goes to UNI and not before, but I'm worried now she will use that. Shes 18 so its her money now.
she can cook for herself and does cleaning and chores around the house to help out. but I'm at a loss now. what else can we do?. she said shes ok and was just doing it for the thrill. I am so worried its all our fault.