My son won’t hold his penis

[MuskIsACnt]

My son is nearly 3 and has been potty trained for c4 months now. The issue is, he will only pee with mum or dad holding down his penis (to stop pee going everywhere).

He starts nursery in a couple of weeks so really needs to start holding down his own penis asap, but he absolutely refuses and gets quite upset at the idea.

He’ll touch his penis so that’s not the issue, the issue is only with peeling.

He says he doesn’t want to get pee on his hands, so I’ve let pee get on my hands and shown him it’s not a big deal we just wash it off. I’ve tried making it fun, different peeling positions, peeing target practice etc., but nothing works.

I’m at a total loss and so worried he’ll be distressed and hold urine at nursery because they (rightly) won’t hold his penis. Does anyone have any suggestions?

He’s otherwise bright, capable, no sensory/other issues.

Good luck, I hope you get this sorted. I hope the GP’s a bit more helpful at your next appointment.

Oh I feel your pain. I remind my four year old constantly but he won't hold it to pee and we end up with a piss covered bathroom.

Can he not sit to pee?

Has his Dad demonstrated how to pee standing up? I told DH that it was his job to show DS how to do it. I think it’s easier if you’ve got the same toolkit!

Let him sit. One day you won't be able to get his hand off it. When he's ready he will do it. My son sat for a long time.

One way to encourage holding it down himself while peeing is to put cheerios or little bits of tissue paper into the bowl as targets, or play a fireman game.

Another is to make him clean up pee that ends up outside the bowl. Boys all need to be made aware that this kind of mess is theirs to clean up, and starting early often means there isn't a problem by the time they get to school.

He is sitting down

Very odd post and post title

@notevenasmidgen The OP didn't say that.

No but @notevenasmidgen is jumping on everyone who suggests it. Helpful, eh?! 🙄

Same here. No holding involved

Yes - my experience so far

@sanityisamyth

I just feel like defending poor OP from poster after poster who haven't read the thread and for the continuing posts that suggest the same thing again and again and even more continuing posts still calling her odd and suggesting this never happens. All based on their own children, when other posters have given genuinely helpful advice.

A strange thread, be weary.

Definitely go back , as your son may get self conscious when he gets older.

Yes to this, and also lean forward a good deal.

This needs investigation.

@MuskIsACnt Love your username-
But back to the Urologist-
I’m not a male, but it’s definitely not usual for little ones to be spraying wee everywhere either standing or sitting- My son saw a urologist as a toddler for a hydrocele-
they said it wasn’t necessary, but I had the op done anyway and my son ( now grown) was so glad I did it when he was little.

Best of luck ! 🙂

Op, you may find the peer pressure and instruction from nursery staff is sufficient to crack this. There is so much my little one will do at nursery that he won’t at home. They often go to the loo in gangs so seeing their friends doing things can help.

he also needs to sit on the loo to prevent wee going everywhere

I don’t think it’s weird. I have three DS and they always stood for a pee in potty or toilet. It helped they were tall (for the toilet).

get your husband to show him how its done and that its ok

Then the pee will go everywhere! It's bad enough when they "aim"!!
(I'm a frequent babysitter.)

Um I don't think so. I've done enough babysitting to know that NO boy is that, um, well-endowed.