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Safe Guarding Teacher called with stories

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BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 16:57

Hi. So I’m asking on behalf of my sister.
my sister said the safe guarding head or teacher called her today to say that her daughter 4YO told her at school that the blister on her hand was due to her trying to retrieve her football that fell in the fire. My sister told the safeguarding teacher that the blister randomly appears every few months on both children’s arms. (Both kids have been having this fluid filled blister every couple months randomly , started when they moved to England) They’ve been to the GP who prescribed antibiotics and said they have no idea why and it might be some sort of reaction.
Now when her daughter came home she tried to find out what ball she was speaking about and her daughter said she told the teacher she slept and when she woke up the blister was there, no mention of any balls. Sister is upset and thinks the teacher made the story up.
do you think she should take it further I.e tell the class teacher or email saying her daughter said she never said anything of the sort or just let it go. It’s a 4YO word against an adult but she’s adamant her daughter doesn’t tell tales.
what do you all think . Thank you

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CaptainMyCaptain · 07/01/2025 19:48

BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 19:37

You are right thank you. A lot of what you opined is correct.

Opined is an odd word to use in this context.

1AngelicFruitCake · 07/01/2025 19:51

OP, you're coming across like you've calmed down and thinking more logically now, which is good. Unfortunately teachers have to put up with this level of anger and distrust all of the time.
You've mentioned your sister a lot but it's your niece that really matters and why she's said it

BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 19:51

CandyCane457 · 07/01/2025 19:39

I don’t think trying to find out why your kid may have been telling tales is a reason not to be a teacher.

Look at your original post. Your whole vibe in the first post is all about how you and your sister think the teacher is lying because heaven forbid, a 4 year old never would.

Your post is literally called “teacher called with stories” heavily implying the teacher is lying/making up stories.

Then there’s phrases such as:
“Sister is upset and thinks the teacher made the story up.”
“Do you think she should take it further and email saying her daughter said she never said anything of the sort.”
“She’s adamant her daughter wouldn’t tell tales.”

But now you’re COMPLETELY turning it around saying things like “I don’t think trying to find out why your kid may be telling tales is a reason not to be a teacher.” It’s like you’re now trying to change your own narrative and be all like “no no I’m not accusing the teacher of lying, I want to find out why my niece might be telling tales!”

Did you miss the part where I said I was writing on behalf of someone so her words. Did you see my opinions. Or just another poster who draws conclusions that are not there? 🤦

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CandyCane457 · 07/01/2025 19:53

BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 19:51

Did you miss the part where I said I was writing on behalf of someone so her words. Did you see my opinions. Or just another poster who draws conclusions that are not there? 🤦

No I didn’t miss it, but it still came across very much in your original post that you’re in full agreement with your sister. The replies you’ve got would be SO different if you’d phrased your original post differently. 🤦

VivienneDelacroix · 07/01/2025 19:53

When I was teaching, I had a parent accuse me of making something up about their child. Honestly, teachers have no reason to make things up, children already fill our days with the unexpected and we have more than enough things going on in the classroom that we don't get bored enough to make things up!

BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 19:53

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/01/2025 19:48

Opined is an odd word to use in this context.

How so? Or has the definition changed . A lot of the opinions/conclusion she drew in her sentence is correct. What’s odd about that?

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Rachmorr57 · 07/01/2025 20:00

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BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 20:02

CandyCane457 · 07/01/2025 19:53

No I didn’t miss it, but it still came across very much in your original post that you’re in full agreement with your sister. The replies you’ve got would be SO different if you’d phrased your original post differently. 🤦

Yes I’m on my sister’s side and my nieces side as I know her skin condition (blisters) are not from any form of abuse but I still told her what was likely from kids that age and then I said I’d type it on here and show her the responses. The one response that came automatically saying yes abuse got my hackles up which was evident in my misdirected response to a poster . But anyway I’ve got enough responses for her. She can make her decision herself . Always good to see opinions / views of many different people as opposed to just mine.

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BlazenWeights · 07/01/2025 21:18

ToddlerSwim · 07/01/2025 19:26

This exactly. If the question was "should we mention it at drop off tomorrow to find out more about what she actually said and where it came from?" I think the replies would be very different.

The fact your OP suggested emailing to insist her daughter never said anything of the sort is in fact not at all the same thing as what you've said here.

It's perfectly normal to be confronted with a new and surprising situation, especially concerning your children and react irrationally in the heat of the moment. Everyone in the world does it. I can't imagine the amount of ragey emails that must get written in people's imaginations.

If you go to Mumsnet, get some perspective and calm down then its fine to just back down. You don't need to pretend you were asking something you weren't or that you meant something completely different.

🤦‍♂️

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