hello all,
i have been wrecking my brain my entire pregnancy in 2024! I feel safe here, if you are judging that’s fine I accept my part in this. Let’s jump right in, my ex and I were still sexually active March 2024 but we were broken up. We were intimate on the 13th of March. I met someone at a bar March 16th&& one thing led to another. That following morning he wasn’t sure if he (you know what). With my work schedule I hadn’t gotten around to buying a day after pill. Fast forward to April 6th I found out that I was 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant. My ex harassed me my entire pregnancy for a paternity test, grant it I suggested a test the same day I found out I was withchild. Now that my daughter is here he wants no parts nor will he take a test. The guy from the bar agreed to take a test but he’s been giving me the run around, idk what to do. I kept the both of them at a distance my entire pregnancy so that there wouldn’t be any drama&& less stress for me&& my daughter. Now that she’s here I’m not trying to force either of them to be there for her nor am I seeking child support, I just want to know. I’ve suggested an at home test just to make the guy from the bar more comfortable&& he’s been awkward about it. I just want to already have answers for my daughter once she’s older& begins to wonder. What should i do? I want to try Ancestry just find her relatives being that i cannot get any paternal dna but I’m not sure if that’s my next best option.