"I´m getting divorced and I DON´T want to keep the children!!"

[nofoodinthehouse]

Are you shocked?

It seems that more and more divorcing couples in Belgium are insisting that neither parent wants to look after their children. What do you make of that?!

Just to put in context, pre-school and after school clubs are the norm, with full time child care clubs during the school holidays. Most women go back to work within 3 months of birth.

do you have a link?

And your point being?

and?

welcome to MN btw...

What's your reason ( s) for not wanting the kids? How old are they?
Must make Belgian kids feel unwanted.

No link, just anecdote from divorce lawyer...

My point being that this is absolutely tragic.

That children are an inconvenience.

That people are prehaps becoming more selfish.

That there is a danger that when both parents work almost straight from baby´s birth there is a danger that they do not BOND with the baby.

That excellent child care facilities from birth may just have a down side?

I have only had two mouthfuls of wine, but it makes no sense.

Is it meant to provoke discussion on the Belgian situation ?

Anecdotal evidence is rarely true IME.

Must clarify, I am not literally giving up my own children, just paraphrasing what some parents here are saying!

Oh thought YOU didn't want your kids.

LGJ - i am slightly cider-fuddled but it makes no sense to me either!!

If you could back it up with some data, it could be an interesting discusion, but in the absence of data, this thread will most probably just die.

So if this is happening who does get to look after the children? Its awful to say this and I no nothing of the culture in Belgium but could this catch on? Women saying hang on we are splitting up so why should I be left with the children. Hope not.

hmm, I have had days when I wish I wasnt a parent as I am sure many people do....but I don't actually MEAN it, I canot imagine life without my dd now.
I remember growing up in a reconstituted family (think thats what you call it)
and I knew my mum loved me but my step dad just wished I would dissapear,I'd never want my child to feel like that.
Most of us go back to work because we HAVE to, if I didnt have to, I would work part time and spend more unrushed, quality time with my dd

I'm not shocked because the op has made lots of assumptions with no real evidence and then wants people to blast wohms based on this.

hm, yes, I wonder if this will become more common too. My impression is that it is normally a big no-no for a mother to give up her children, so is this a sign of the times and the way things are moving forward?

Doesn´t matter if the thread dies a fast death BreevandercampLGJ; just thought I´d share this with you ; ) I´m stunned personally.

Am I pissed already? This makes no sense

Oh my GOD, this is most certainly NOT NOT NOT a blast at WOHMs! This has got nothing to do with it at all!!

Hercules1, what assumptions am I making? I´ve thrown out some thoughts, but don´t know how or why this situation may have come about, or even how common it is. This I freely admit.

If it did become more common perhaps men would not be so quick to leave their relationships or wise up. I'm aware that women instigate divorce too but usually at a huge personal costs because we mostly are left with the responsibility of the children.

Well its making sense to me. I dont think the OP should be blasted for not having data on it, nor is it critising working mums. Perhaps I'm missing something. Only on second glass .

Ha ha.
DH and I always say if we divorce we'll argue over the kids - I'll say 'you can have them', and he'll say 'no, it's OK, you can'!