Too unwell to get children to primary school

[Stixk]

If you’re unwell and recovering ..but too poorly to take your children to school, what do you do ?
No one else to help .
Do you tell the school or not? Please can someone advise on this .

Thank you so much everyone for the kind comments.

Gah. It’s really bothering me to ask for help. I’m a worry wart at the best of times. We have some pretty difficult circumstances as well happening at the moment and in all honesty I could do with as much support as possible.

Is there a reason why you won't answer how old your children are, @Stixk ?

Not at all- they are 9 and 11

At that age they're surely old enough to walk to school on their own or with a group of neighbourhood classmates. Thats what we did growing up and I'm not ancient. Was walking to school by myself and/or with my best friend at 8. They don't need you taking them to school, surely. And we walked 20 minutes to school. I honestly don't see why they can't get themselves to school. And the 11 year old would be secondary school age/approach secondary school age. So too old to need mum taking them.

We live nearly three miles away. I wouldn’t let them walk. That might be for a different thread because people do things differently but I won’t do that.

I have no alternative advice but I just wanted to wish you well. I was a single parent for many years and it’s really tough, especially if you’re unwell. Best wishes an d I’m sorry for your situation x

I wouldn’t either and it isn’t unreasonable. It completely depends where you live. When my older dc were at school we lived in a village where lots walked to school, and I was more than happy for them to walk together or with friends.

Now, we live rurally and my ten year old absolutely couldn’t get to school by herself. It’s five miles away with no safe walking route, and no direct bus.

Lots of schools wouldn’t let the nine year old leave without an adult, anyway. Schools have different policies but lots say no.

These responses are very odd. She's unwell and people are questioning if she can look after her children. I've been unwell and unable to drive ..head migraines etc that's unsafe to drive it would be highly irresponsible to be throwing up and driving or walking kids to school . But cooking etc is completely different to driving a child to and from school or walking. At mine you wait like.20 mins in a que and then you have to walk back or back to your car , then sonetimes an hour before pick up just to get parking. If you are unwell just explain to the school you can't and if they are off school so be it. Why on earth people jump to safeguarding is beyond me. And this whole comparison of " oh well when I'm throwing up I still go with a bucket " yeh and spead it to everyone else cheers for that lol. You want a medal lol
You will not get fined that is ludicrous. As long as it's not all the time don't beat yourself up and have a pj day.
One day of education or even 2 isn't going to affect your whole child's career prospects lol I hope you get well soon and remember self care is so important. Us women do enough . Recovering from ill health is priority.

And I think the lady came away because these comments are suggesting she's not well and there's some safety issue which is totally unfair and unhelpful.

I’m a SAHM so I have flex, if someone messaged on the class WhatsApp group I would always offer to help where I could

I hope you're recovering @Stixk

You drag yourself in, with promise of being able to get back in bed after.

you call on one of the mum friends you have cultivated for these emergencies.

you call a cab and take the kids in.

kids go to school when you are not well.
not least to keep them out of your hair

Mine would have to cross a multi lane road known as an accident black spot, so no way would I be letting them!

There's a lot of bad advice on here . If you don't know a parent you don't let them take your child anywhere. Even knowing a parent is still a risk ..that is a safety issue.
The school will not look at this as a good thing.
And your right no way should a child be walking that young . School policy wont allow the younger one to.
You could get a cab and take some tablets to help I.e if a stomach bug immodium is good
Or a local.childminder who is DBS checked may do an advocate drop off
I would not worry too much
Education provisions need to realise that life happens . This is why lots of people are homeschooling now . Too much anxiety around schools nowadays.

Hi all .. thank you for taking the time to reply to me. It’s been tricky to say the least.
Two hospital admissions and am
still not very well. Consultant told me
today it’s likely to be 3-4 months before I am
fully recovered .

Some of the replies on here left me feeling pretty anxious to be honest so I did indeed step away for a bit.

I hope you are OK. Talk to the school they may be able to arrange transport out of their pupil premium funds. Or an alternative under exceptional circumstances. But I think it's best you talk to them about a solution as I am sure they have things in place for these types of situations. It will be OK. 😊