Too unwell to get children to primary school

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If you’re unwell and recovering ..but too poorly to take your children to school, what do you do ?
No one else to help .
Do you tell the school or not? Please can someone advise on this .

Why wouldn't that be your first thought?!

Let the school know your circumstances. There might be a member of staff who lives nearby who would be willing to help with the run for a couple of weeks.

I think most people would be willing to help out if able, if it was just for a few weeks, but I understand you might not want to share the reason why with people you don't really know.

How long term are we talking? A week or two I would put a message out on the class WhatsApp and ask for help. Longer term then you could get a childminder or taxi company to take them. If its disability related maybe there’s charities in your area who could help.

You might be able to apply to the council for fixed-term school transport.

Which council do you come under?

Her circumstances are that she has family on hand to help.
Not sure why she feels the school should save them the bother!

Why are people being horrible to a single parent with cancer who’s worried about getting her children to school post surgery?! This place is unbelievable.

Have you been referred to Macmillan, op? They might be able to support you with the practicalities of looking after dc during your treatment. Are you claiming PIP? That might help with the cost of taxis etc. Do speak to the school, they will hopefully be able to support, or help you to sort temporary transport with the LA or through children’s services, if anything is available.

Reach out on the whats app. I’ve picked up my kids little mates in emergency’s before. Infact I am taking one tomorrow: there will always be a mum going the same way and it’s nice to have a few favours. Just don’t be a knob and forget to repay them 😜

She Said the situation is complicated. She doesn’t have to explain the ins and outs to you. There’s really no need to kick someone when they’re down, I hope it made you feel good.

Hope this all goes well 😞❤️

This.

Ask friends to collect them or on the class WhatsApp ?

Really confused why people are being such arseholes about this, not everyone has support! I’d definitely reach out to the school, I’m sure there will be some support available, family link services through the local authority etc. hope you’re not as poorly as you anticipate

speak to head,ask for support.get well soon x

She doesn't 'feel the school should support'.
I made a suggestion. Feel free to ignore it!

Hi OP, some strange comments on this thread!

I went through chemo with a 6 months old and a three year old, my husband worked long hours. I got my 3 year old to nursery every day, it was a 15 min walk. Not everyone finds chemo horrific, you may be well enough to do the school run.

And comments about not being well enough to do a school run so not being well enough to look after kids at all are unhelpful and unrealistic. There were times when I was exhausted and found childcare really hard. So there'd be lots of TV and snacks - everyone was safe. But would I have been safe to drive 30 mins to drop a child off and walk 30 mins with a buggy, probably not.

Wishing you all the best...it might not be as bad as you anyicipate

Speak to school they maybe able to put together emergency transport either from the Family Liaison officer collecting them, minibus, taxi etc - if you don't ask you'll never know and it's something that will differ between schools.

Other than that it's the good will of friends and family. Possibly charities like Home start or similar if serious and ongoing issue.

Or if it's a mobility issue you hire a wheelchair from Red Cross or a mobility scooter from a mobility shop. If you are sick then you take a sick bag and cross your fingers you don't need it.

I'm not sure it's about saving them the bother!

msybe they don't drive? Are not that well themselves? Not reliable? Not safe? We don't know??

Why are people being horrible to a single parent with cancer who’s worried about getting her children to school post surgery?! This place is unbelievable

This!

Definitely speak to the school OPh. Hopefully they can help or make suggestions, and they should be made aware or the situation anyway in case the children are upset about mummy being ill.

Wishing you all the best 💐

You're very lucky if you can't imagine any instance where this might happen. I do have a Dp but if I didn't, the surgeries I've had to recover from recently would have meant exactly that, no way could have taken my kids

I'm so sorry I skim read that, really do apologise for saying you're lucky! Hope you recover well

I would either ask family to come and stay or another parent who lives nearby to take them.

How old are they? Can't they walk to school themselves? Or walk with a group of schoolfriends to school?

Erm, no matter how sick I am, I can always get my kid to school. Otherwise how would I take a proper sick day?

I would tell the class WhatsApp the situation and offer to pay someone to take them and hope that they will club together to do it for free

Why come on and say a nasty comment to someone who is obviously really ill. I bet you're universally loved (not).