HELP Ear piercing issue HELP

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HELP

Right, my daughter had her ears pierced in August (she's 5) I cleaned them 3 times a day for about 7/8 weeks and all was good. She's complained that one ear was painful occasionally when I asked her to twist them but nothing major and it looks fine!!! Tonight she's been to gymnastics where she had to take them out which was a big issue for her but they looked fine apart from the back of one of them which looked red. She was really panicky about putting either of them back in but one's gone back fine and the other not so.

It's got through half fine, but struggling to get it back through and looks red and sore at the back. Iv then moved it around and made it bleed 🥴🥴🥴🥴. Lots of tears and she's told me this ear really hurts, now it's bled she's completely shut down. Now gone to bed and agreed to re try tomorrow but I'm worried it's a no go. Help.

She is 5, she has no idea of what it involves and it sounds like you either r had no or bad advice as they shouldn't be turned or taken out
As you have found out its too young and if you didn't want her to have them done then why the flip would you allow it?
I would just take them out and let them heal and try again when she is older

Given the poor aftercare advice you were given, I'm guessing she had them done at Claire's?

Ears take minimally 3-6 months to heal. Realistically closer to 12 months. You should never turn them. Very poor advice.
Im not sure if you’ll get it back in tomorrow. You might have to go in through the back but moisten the ear and the earring to make it slippy and more likely to slide in easier.

If you can’t get it in you’ll have to leave it to heal over and try again when she’s older. Similar happened to a friend. She got her dd done about 5/6 ish and had to let them heal and got them redone when she was closer to 10

Thank you

The posts on the earrings used for piercing are thicker than normal earrings. Could you try putting a normal (thinner) earring in? I've had a few piercings on my ears and didn't wear earrings for ages so they seemed to heal up. I saw someone on here recommend dipping the post in Vaseline before putting in your ear. It slipped in for me but they weren't freshly pierced so didn't hurt like it may for your daughter.

People feel the need to judge because you let a 5 year old get holes punched in her ears. HTH.

We had to use plastic earrings for my dd till they has healed fully.

Ears generally take months to heal, the 6 weeks is a myth. This is particularly true if they were pierced with a gun (not recommended) which causes blunt force trauma. Needle piercings are much better. They also allow for use of flat-back earrings which are nicer to sleep in and can be left if for sport. The advice to twist is also outdated and incorrect.

You would be best to let them grow over now and then when she is older, take her to a proper piercing salon (not Claire’s or anywhere that uses a gun). Reputable salons will not pierce under the age of 8 so you’ll need to wait a while. This is partly to ensure that children understand aftercare but also because if you do them too young, the hole position can change as the ear grows and not remain central.

She's 5!! How did you think 5 was old enough to look after piercings??

Why did she have to take them out? Because if she keeps taking them out they won't heal and she'll end up in pain or with an infection.

They were done in August (9th) and gymnastics are clamping down on taking earrings out rather than covering them. I thought for an hour they would be ok but I was wrong!

Oof, I had to go through the back when mine healed up randomly about 10 years after I’d had them done! It hurt a lot, and took a fair while to heal up. Whatever happens I hope the infected ear gets better and she is ok.

I don't think you'll get them back in tomorrow it's too long. Dd had hers pierced in the summer and she can only leave them out for a few hours.

You could try bathing them in warm salt water then try with the earring.

Thank you so much for a human response ... me too!

I’m a piercer.

absolutely do not twist (it delays healing) and 3x a day cleaning is too much (delays healing). 1-2x a day is plenty with neilmed saline spray or clean water in the shower. Dry thoroughly each time.

lobes take more like 4-6 months to heal.

I can’t comment on the position your daughter is in at the moment but just wanted to offer professional information for future.

You let a five year old get her ears pierced? Of course I’m judging you.

Thank you!

You can buy numbing cream or use ice - I would ensure you use some germoline when doing it. I also think you need to try thinner earrings.

My girls were 5 and had theirs done- I’m not sure why the age matters as most women have piercings, and a lot of men too..

Yep I think I'll get it all at the ready and make a judgement in the morning. I'm hoping the over night thing doesn't have a huge impact ... but if it does then it is what it is ... it's not me that will be upset, it will be my DD (hence my message).

Some people just feel the need to comment I think!! I wrote on here for help/advice not judgment so I won't rise to people who feel the need to use there time commenting TBH

That’s completely wrong advice, no decent piercer would advise you to turn them. It just increases the risk of infection and disturbs the channel as it heals.

This happened to my own esrs- which I got pierced in my 30s - one was fine, one was always a problem, sore, red, inflamed, oozing. I had to stop wearing earrings entirely, it was too uncomfortable.
Now 30+ years later that ear still gets red, sore, oozing, hot etc.

I wish I had never gotten them pierced.
Let them heal and leave her ears alone!

I’m not sure what the most unbelievable part of this is: that a three year old was crying and begging to get her ears pierced, or that you genuinely think a five year old has the impulse control to not touch the piercings. Madness.

I have multiple piercings. I had my second and third lobes done three years ago and I didn’t take the earrings out for at least three months. And mine weren’t done with a gun (which makes them more prone to infection and slower to heal).

Take them both out, let them heal up, and get them redone when she’s older at a proper piercers who use a needle and give up-to-date advice. Honestly it makes me so angry that places like Claire’s are still allowed to do piercings, it should be banned.

Sorry OP, I agree with teenlifemum...
your daughter is 5!! She's in no way capable of making a big decision as to having her ears pierced, however much she badgered you..

So, your 5 year old daughter has been in tears wanting her ears pierced for 2 years?? So, she would have been 3 when she clearly articulated to you wanting her ears pierced? Wow! Most children wouldn't even be able to string a sentence together at that age of 3...
I think this scenario of ear piercing is more about what you want as a mum rather than what your daughter wanted..

I think the OP has had enough pearl clutching posts about the age of her daughter. Not helpful in any way and unnecessarily unkind.
OP I hope you manage to sort it out.