Was your child potty trained by 3?

[Cherrysherri]

I did a previous post. Really struggling potty training our 2y9mo but next weekend think I may just set a tough weekend aside and try it again

im so worried about the age thing and just went on the Eric site and got into my head

i I think it’s achievable by the time he’s 3? Around 3

But just feel so guilty that he’s over 2.5 and potty trained

anyone in the same boat or was in the same boat

Def do this and get childcare for the baby so you can give full focus

we did it with a baby too….for 72 hours I stared at my child’s crotch and my DH got dumped with baby who I all but ignored 🙈
We put her in a jumper and cosy boots with bare bum as its fastest way to learn after day 3 we were basically done. We didn’t introduce underpants for about a fortnight as getting trousers on and off was hard enough for her/ she was getting in practice

also : make sure you have some loose pants so they are easy enough to pull up and down solo.

we used oh crap! And I found it pretty good. Particularly around success stacking and dealing with poop (a lot of kids find transitioning from nappies to potties/toilets a bit scary for various reasons)

We were in the US and the Montessori nursery room he was moving to was age 3-4. They wanted them trained before 3 so we just about managed this as they were keen for him to start just after his 3rd birthday.

We were back in the UK when he was 5 and quite a lot of the Reception children had accidents throughout the year.

he definitely sounds ready as he has an awareness of when he wants to wee and communicates it. Mine were trained at 2.6 but night time came a lot later.

I think you need to stay in or near the house for a bout a week and have several potty’s dotted about the house. If you’re out and about they don’t get it as quickly.

Just potty trained my 2 year 9 month old last week. She has been ready for a while but life got in the way.
first fay only 2 wee accidents. And no accidents since! Been try all day and in nursery.
she does ask for a nappy to poo and will not poo on the potty so when she asks I put one on she does her business and knickers go back on I don’t want to make a big deal of it and make her constipated - she will get there.

she hides and does her business so she knows what to do and when she needs to go but is scared to go on the toilet or potty!

Son was trained at 2.5, we pushed it as I was pregnant and didn’t want to potty train heavily pregnant / with a newborn. But we probably had more accidents than if we’d waited a few more months. Having said that a lot of the issue was him not wanting to drop what he was playing with - activities, very possessive with toys especially at nursery where there are other kids - so might just be his personality too.

had real regression with poos a month after we started for a while (pooing in pants but not in the potty) but a stool softener for 1.5 weeks broke him out of a bad cycle. Had no issues since.

My girl started 5 weeks ago, at 2yr9 months. Bare bum for 4 days, day 5 at nursery no undies and bare bum when at home for another couple weeks.

After the first week she was down to 1 to 2 accidents a day. Week 4, lots of no accident days, even when out the house lots. Week 5, she's had just a couple of accidents total. Even zero on her nursery days & zero on 2 full days out

All mine were. They were barred from nursery in the 80s/ 90s if still in Nappies.

My first took ages. I beat myself up for so long, agonising over whether we'd started too soon (a couple of months after 2), too late, done something wrong. But they just weren't ready - they were fine at using the potty, happily went for wees and poos, but really couldn't hold it at all and got very little warning of needing a wee, and went very frequently.
Then my next child was fine, no problem, and it helped me realise that different kids are just that, different, and ready at different ages!

Mine was just past her third birthday. We tried a couple of times before and were guided by our very experienced nanny who said she wasn't ready. Just after three she got it immediately. Very few accidents ever.

1st daughter yes apart from at night time.
2nd daughter just about but still had weekly poo accidents. She's 5 now and we still lift her over the loo half asleep before we go to bed.

I started training one of mine at 2 years 6 months and the other I trained at 3 years 2 months.

I had a MUCH easier time with training the 3 year old. It just clicked really easily and happened quickly. Training my other child at a younger age was a much longer and harder process. I'm not sure why I forced it really.

I wish I hadn't felt the pressure to train by a specific time.

In my friends circle boys generally seemed to be later.

my oldest was 2 years 3 months. Decided to randomly try one after noon &’after a couple of days we were out with no nappy & she only ever had a couple of accients.

my younger daughter i tried at the same age and she wasn’t ready, tried at 2 years 5 months & still not & at 2 years 8 months got it but had quite a few accidents.

my son was a nightmare. No interest tried at 2 years 8 months (based on my 2nd daughter thinking 1st was a fluke & again just after his 3rd birthday & he still couldn’t get it. Tried for about a month as nursery were adamant he should to be in pants & that it took longer. Was really stressful so i put him back in nappies & tried to forget about it. Imagined him going to school in nappies. One day when he was 3 years 5 months he came down dressed in clothes i’d left out but pants & peed himself 5 mins later but said he wanted pants. Was christmas holidays so decided to try it. Quite a few accidents the first day, not as many 2nd, few the 3rd & i was ready to give up but he had 1 accident the 4th & 5th day then none for about a week then a couple a day which felt like a big step backwards but then none after that so by 3 & a half he had it. He was well over a year older than my 1st daughter but got it in his own time. the 3 of them were dry overnight within a couple of weeks of daytime clicking.

Same here just before 3rd birthday … boy

2 years 10 months, dedicated a week to it only had 1 accident. He's now just 3 and dry at night about 90% of the time too. I tried before and he wasn't ready. Just waited a bit and tried again. Left him bare for a week, then put trousers on no pants for a week then introduced pants and he's done great! They seem to know when they are ready

I have one. She was trained at 3 and 4 months. Dry at night by 3 and a half but we had massive issues with poo withholding for a long time. I tried her at 2 and she wasn’t ready. Then I worked part time so that didn’t help. I ended up with her in nappies half the day then potty for the rest and even though I read not to do this it did work.

No, we tried several times, several methods and what worked for other children didn't work for my son. He was basically afraid. He was age 3 and 4 months on the final training attempt. My mother told me I took several attempts as a child and I wouldn't cooperate until I was 3. Eric may say readiness is a myth but the child does have to want to do it on some level.

Don't best yourself up! You're doing a great job! He will get there. I know you are feeling the pressure, but if you put lots of pressure on this it will actually make it harder. Take a deep breath and relax as much as you can.

In France they start kindergarten at 3 and have to be out of nappies in the day to go. It's very motivating. Parents are back at work at 3 - 4 months postpartum so most of the potty training is done at the child minders. I think it's largely a case of monkey see monkey do.

Nope.

My twins were about 3y 1m, and we had tried at least three times before then. By the time we 'trained' them, they didn't need training as they were feeling the urge and knew what to do. So, basically no accidents.

Youngest was about the same age and even easier. The older two were poo withholders for a while and wet overnight for ages. He wasn't.

PS they're 15 and almost 13 now and not only do I not ever think about it, it makes literally no difference to them either. So don't sweat it.

One of mine was toilet trained by 18 months, one was toilet trained by 4 years old. They are all different so don't beat yourself up over it, let your child learn at the pace that's right for them and you'll be fine.

DD1 was toilet trained at 2y2m and DD1 at 2y3m. The Oh Crap method worked really well for both of them. It took longer than a weekend though - I wasn't working so I didn't have to rush it, though I had cabin fever staying in/local. They both had accidents but I accepted that as part of the training. Neither of them needed extra training for night time - we put them in nappies at bedtime to start with but they were always dry when they woke up - didn't need to lift them when sleeping, or control liquid intake.

Dd was potty trained by 2.5, a real ' you use the potty now ' ' okay mummy' kid. Probably a handful of accidents. Dry at night at the same time.

Ds1 was 3.5 after a few failed attempts. Wouldn't even entertain sitting on the potty. Literally came home from nursery one day and announced his friend Elijah wears big boy pants so he does too and that was that! Also dry at night a few days later which was discovered by chance when he refused to wear a pull up - he's still as strong willed as ever ( and likely ND )

DS is 2y 9m and yet to potty train but he also has Cerebral Palsy so I think we will wait a while longer although he does ask to be changed when he's done a poo!

No. We had along haul flight at 3 and one day. Would have been horrific. Well it was as horrific for other reasons. Came home two weeks later and twins were done in two days. Lazy, but couldn't be doing with all the carrying a potty around and trying to deal with both at the same time.

Yes, from 2 ish. And they had to be out of nappies to go up into pre- school nursery at 3. I used to use the toilet in front of them, so they knew what it was for .
I started with poos- small children usually have a sign they need a poo, whether it’s hiding or fidgeting. Had a stash of dolly mixtures and they got one as soon as they had done a poo on the toilet!
Just pick a week when you are on leave, stay round the house, nappy off and lots of praise ( plus a sweetie per plop 👶)
Get some excellent pants too- Thomas ones or dinasours, whatever they choose.
Its all about incentives.