Was your child potty trained by 3?

[Cherrysherri]

I did a previous post. Really struggling potty training our 2y9mo but next weekend think I may just set a tough weekend aside and try it again

im so worried about the age thing and just went on the Eric site and got into my head

i I think it’s achievable by the time he’s 3? Around 3

But just feel so guilty that he’s over 2.5 and potty trained

anyone in the same boat or was in the same boat

My son was 3.5. Tried three times before it clicked on the fourth attempt. You haven't failed your child, sometimes it just takes a bit longer for some kids

Mine were 3y 4m and 3y 11m

The day they decided it was time for pants and not pull ups that was it - neither one had an accident ever. There were no tears or drama. Letting them decide when the time was right worked wonders for us.

Yes.

DC1 was 2yrs 2 months.
DC2 was 2yrs 9 months - but in hindsight I think could have been trained at least a few months younger than that judging by how quickly he picked it up and the fact that he also went reliably night dry after a couple of weeks. I was severely ill with hyperemesis before though hence leaving it that late to try.

BUT all children are different. I'm pregnant with my third, who knows when they will be toilet trained and whether it will be before or after 3. I think most children can be trained before 3 but definitely not all of them.

I agree with pp re cloth nappies - more uncomfortable so more likely to be aware? 40-odd years ago both of mine were out by their 2nd birthdays (photos to remind me) and I used to lift them at night just before I went to bed for a couple of weeks. Most of our friends' little ones were nappy free at a similar age but when you think how cold and wet those nappies must have been! We used potties and choc buttons as a reward.

Yes, potty trained before they started pre-school nursery.

Yes- at 22m they were potty trained. Day and night

Girl done by 2y2m and boy done by 2y5m.

One was. One wasn't.

One was one wasn't (she was 3 years 2 months), honestly it doesn't really matter. If you wait until he's enthusiastic about it it'll be so much easier.
Both of mine were trained within 5 days and had very few accidents after that

Yes & No!
DD was potty trained just before her 3rd birthday.
DS was a different story. Did all the same things but it just didn't take. No interest on his part at all.
The year he was at preschool was awful - we wanted him trained before he started school at 4yrs 3months (June birthday) but it was honestly soul destroying the amount of accidents & changes of clothes. Pull ups didn't work - we had to go full pants & ride through the accidents until he was uncomfortable with the mess & inconvenience of the clean up. He eventually cracked it around May of the year he started school in the Sept.
Occasionally has an accident, but a lot less now - usually because he gets engrossed in something & puts off going until he's desperate.

My sons were 3 and 3.5. We tried at 3 with the second and he just wasn't ready. Both were quite late to walk. And, if it matters, both are NT and exceeding expectations now at school.

Honestly, don't beat yourself up about it.

Don't forget:
Girls usually train earlier
Some people are prepared to tolerate months of accidents so they can say they've got rid of the nappies
Every older person you speak to allegedly trained at 18 months

Barring additional needs, everyone gets there

Also, you can't night train - it's hormonal

My girls - yes.
My boys - no.

Follow their lead. He may be ready next week or in six months.
Buy them underwear with their favourite characters on.
By the time we had our third we didn’t even bother with a potty. Carve out a few days of being at home, leave them nappy-free either with or without pants on, and reward, reward, reward when they have used the loo.

I can’t remember when by but they were all trained before they went to nursery. So between 3 years 1 month and 3 years 3 months. They were all dry overnight at the same time too. I don’t think it’s anything I did, just the way they were.

My boy was out of nappies at 20 months. I'm about to start my daughter at 16 months tomorrow. Not because I want to particularly, but because she's showing every sign she's ready. So if your boy is then go for it.

One 18 months, one 2 years 3 months.

If he grabs a nappy when he needs a wee he is ready. He is aware and able to hold until he gets to somewhere he's comfortable weeing. Have faith in him, set aside 48 hours without your phone (he'll need your total support) and go for it. If he's not made obvious progress in that time then maybe think again. But it sounds like you'll have pretty much cracked it. Just no more nappies. Not for the car, not for Tesco's, not for anything other than when he's actually asleep.

I’ve had a niggling feeling with this! We go away this weekend for an overnight stay, he goes to nursery 3 days then he’s with me. And his dad until the next week so luckily we have a good block of days

Would it be best to get my youngest babysat ? My phone hasn’t been the issue really I’m good at popping that away when the kids are awake, but it’s balancing the two (DH is with us 1 full day, working the others)

Niggling feeling ^ that asking for a nappy when he’s bare and wants to wee is a sign

but I just don’t know how to get him on potty / loo

Eldest 3.3y, DC2 3.8y, DC3 4yo but 9yo now and still has accidents from time to time, DC4 around 4yo and still has accidents too occasionally aged 7yo.

DS1 no.
DS2 yes.

They were both clean and dry within a couple of days because they trained when they were ready.

DD1 at 2.5 years and DD2 around her 3rd birthday. Tried at 2.5 but wasn’t having it and too cold to go naked from the waist down at that time of year so did it during the Easter holidays when I had 2 weeks off to crack it.

Yes, if that's possible I would. My view is that it's totally new to them, so any sign that they don't want to be wet/dirty or have an awareness of where they want to wee/poo needs to be embraced and fully supported. So I'd go for it based on what you've said. I've waited for the weekend for exactly this reason - my partner is taking our 3yo out for the day so I can focus all my attention on the younger one. My top tip from potty training my oldest is to make sure you can reach your child and the potty at the same time for the first day. Wees don't last long, so you need to be able to pick them up and put them on the potty as soon as they start weeing in order to get any in there! Or for an older toddler they need a decent chance of getting there when you say "quick wees go in the potty!"

If he's really potty adverse I'd keep him bare bummed but line a potty with a nappy. And make sure it's a big enough potty - some are small and uncomfortable!

Oh so I might’ve been going wrong I basically in the past when he’s had accidents said like oh quick let’s get to the potty etc

ive never lifted him to it? Sorry I seem stupid but would I try that lift him to kt

DD was just 2, but we used cloth nappies which makes it easier and she was very ahead with speech/communication.

They are all different. We actually used Covid isolation (DD was positive but not ill) which passed the time and gave us 10 days before we could leave the house. Unintended benefit of being locked down 🙈😂 this was back in the height of the pandemic when the rules were at their strictest.