Would you say my baby is ginger ?

[August21yellowbaby]

I'm getting a lot of comments mainly from my mum who has always been very negative about ginger hair and she's keeps mentioning my babies hair and she's making it a bad thing
When his own grandmother is being mean (she says she's joking) about his hair colour I worry about other people being mean to him later in life
Would you say he's ginger? My first is quite dark now at 3 years old but his hair changed a lot during those 3 years

People pay hundreds to get that hair colour now. It's lovely.

I haven’t see any bullying of red heads at my children’s school. The children I am thinking of see it as a positive thing as their hair colour is stunning.

I would ask her why she’s making negative comments about her grandson’s hair, is she trying to give him a complex about his appearance?

Awwwwwwwwwwww
yes he’s a gorgeous lil ginge
note that only a ginger can call another ginger ginger.
also, we are actual mutants and create our own vitamin D, so I think your Mum is jealous tbh.
reds have been renowned through history for having magical powers - vampires, witches etc, so she should tread carefully….

His hairs gorgeous, he does look ginger. Your mum sounds like someone who feeds off negativity and reactions.

You're going to have to stop arguing or questioning and instead, confidently and assertively and proudly say Yes he's definitely a red head, my gorgeous boy. And you shut it down and you don't react.

Then if it continues with negative comments you make it clear that needs to stop. And never accept any dick who replies to you with ' I'm only joking '.

I would have to say something in a text to her.

"Just wanted to message to nip something in the bud. It makes me really uncomfortable that you are making negative comments about DS' appearance. It doesn't matter that he's a baby right now, I don't want him to grow up getting a complex about his hair colour (which I happen to think is lovely by the way) so can you not mention it again? Otherwise it's going to make spending time together awkward. Thanks."

I think you need to have a serious word with your mum, it's not funny. She has a healthy grandchild, she should be grateful.

Honestly the fact that she pretends she's joking about it when she clearly isn't just makes it all worse.

What's she going to be like if he or a sibling is a bit chubby? Or doesn't have as many friends as she'd like? And linking that to him being ginger for literally no reason.

Sounds like it will be an ongoing nightmare and really start to knock your child's confidence. And when she says she's just joking it's really going to add a whole nother level of insecurities to the mix.

I'd be firmly shutting it down and making it very clear that this and similar comments are not welcome and it's not conducive to maintaining your current level of relationship.

Looks the same as my boy who is 10 weeks. I’m praying he stays ginger bless him. I’d kill for hair that colour! Although I do keep singing the Tim Minchin song Prejudice to him

Yes it does look ginger.

@Loub55 Your daughters hair is utterly gorgeous. I bet she get loads of compliments 😁

I'd love to be a red head. Gorgeous.

There is certainly a gingery tinge, how wonderful. My DD was like this, she then developed the most wonderful natural curls aged about 16 months. I had nothing but compliments (she looked great in green too).

She's 19 now (in the Navy!!), I don't recall her ever mentioning her hair being a source of negativity. She's more a strawberry blonde now.

As ginger as me!
🧡😁

Me too. Red/auburn/titian hair is gorgeous.
Why is there so much prejudice against it?

It looks ginger to me. It could change but it may stay the same.
My DS had similar coloured hair until about 5 months. It changed to a lovely honey coloured blonde and is still the same to date.
Your child will have the colour hair that suits them. If they don’t like it they can dye it in the future.
I wouldn’t worry about it.

My DC2 was red when they were a baby, I loved it! Before they were 1 their hair had changed to being bright white blonde (which is also lovely), but I miss the red!

Hard to tell tbh, both mine had a gingery tinge to their hair as babies (I'm a redhead) but they ended up with brown & blonde hair

I was a bit disappointed! I wanted to pass on my red hair!

Tell your mum she's showing her age by thinking it's ok to make jokes about ginger hair

I think this is the crux of it. I’m on the ‘older’ side with adult kids and I have seen this change over several decades. When I was young in school, redheads were pitied and teased. This came from the adults who for some very weird reason didn’t like red hair. As we became young adults we realised how bizarre that was given how beautiful it is, and the fact so many people dye their hair red. When I had kids, there didn’t seem to be any teasing or untoward behaviour about redheads between kids, likely because they didn’t have us as role models telling them this. The only issue seemed to lie with the generation above me, old dogs, new tricks and all that.

Congratulations - You've got a red haired baby!

I had a surprise red head and my god she's gorgeous. She's 7 now and I still have people stop me in the street to tell me how lovely her hair colour is.

We've never had anyone say anything bad about it apart from a couple of comments from a girl in her class who saw something on you tube🙄

Apparently there has to be the red haired in both partners genes to get a red head so tell your Mum she's at least part responsible for passing it down.

My daughter was bright red at birth. She is now 20, her hair is amazing. It's auburn but with blonde highlights. She gets a lot of positive attention from it, although she us also tall, slim and ridiculously beautiful too 😊

Red heads are the best! Sadly I'm not. But my mum (who didn't turn grey til her 70s), sister and son got the lucky genes. I'm a boring brown whose grey is showing.
My son is soooo handsome. He is 28 and sometimes sports a lovely bushy red beard. Looks like a tall Viking.
But yeah - my sister got bullied for it in the 70s and 80s, and I bet my boy got it a bit in the noughties. There is literature on the subject and its historic origins. Ridiculous.

Ive got 3 redheads and their hair looked similar to your child's as a baby. They are all professional models and have all done high end campaigns. Red hair is gorgeous!

Maybe your grandchildren will get your ginger gene like my son did from my mum!

And as another poster said, your mum's attitude is very old fashioned. I'd sting her with that as a comment in the process of shutting her down.