Would you say my baby is ginger ?

[August21yellowbaby]

I'm getting a lot of comments mainly from my mum who has always been very negative about ginger hair and she's keeps mentioning my babies hair and she's making it a bad thing
When his own grandmother is being mean (she says she's joking) about his hair colour I worry about other people being mean to him later in life
Would you say he's ginger? My first is quite dark now at 3 years old but his hair changed a lot during those 3 years

It is a bit ginger. My son’s was similar as a baby, blondish/ginger mix. Turned blonde as a toddler and now is quite a deep brown now he’s in primary school.

I’m a redhead (bottle these days) and was never bullied about it. When I was younger people would comment favourably on it. This child may or may not be a redhead but if they are they should assume the honour with pride. The grandmother should be told in no uncertain terms to shut up.

Hard to say. I had one who had similar colour. My mum was the same, looked at the pics and seemingly told everyone she knew that her new grandchild was beautiful ‘but was a ginger’. However, they turned out to be a blonde (not even strawberry blonde). The hilarious thing is though, as an adult, they are still straight up blonde but have a ginger beard, substantial difference between hair and beard colour😆.

At the moment, yes. Not that that means anything for his future hair colour. DH was born with spiky black hair, which fell out dramatically when he was a few months old. He was a bright blonde toddler, gradually darkening to his current mid-brown, which bleaches in sunlight.

My experience too with dd who is 17 and has lots of red curly hair. She's popular and never had any issues. She's at a Comp.
I've only ever been aware of comments from older people, although have had plenty of positive comments from older people too. Younger people don't seem to pick on peoples colouring. It's a bit dated.
We're in South London. Not sure if it's area dependent

He certainly looks ginger at this point. His colour may change as he gets older though. Either way it’s lovely - tell your mum to mind her own.

Yes, doesn’t mean he will stay that colour though. It’s lovely.

Yes Red hair, and I'm jealous! I've been dyeing my hair red for 10 years now, And was disappointed neither DS was ginger. Not that there's any reason for them being, I was hoping for long lost genes coming through.

Don't let you mum tell you its bad, times have changed and its a beautiful thing these days!

DC seems to have a lovely haze of what could eventually become a shade of redhair, or maybe not. A bit early to know for sure.

Congratulation on the arrival of your beautiful baby!

I'm dismayed for you that, "kidding" or not, your mum would make such a negative comment on her brand new GC's baby-fuzz hair colour!

I could say more about how you should handle your mother's negative comment, but others have already said it.

I hope for you that she doesn't find fault in other things to do with your DC, if it does, shut her down quickly and firmly.

Tell you mum she's an insecure bully who must be pretty thick if the only way she can feel superior is to pick on someone who can't even talk yet about their appearance. If she gets upset just tell her you're joking.

Your child may be ginger, it's too early to tell, but your mum will always be an arsehole.

My youngest is auburn, turning more of the orange-ginger in the summer months. She has modelled since a young age, and the more freckles she gets, the more jobs seem to come. She's 12 now and has over £15k in her bank, simply due to being a ginger (and obviously gorgeous). Tell your family member they're being ridiculous. People pay now to be red-heads, and being a natural one can pay well too!

My DD has what I'd call chestnut. Exactly like a chestnut horse. But she's been called ginger or red her whole life. Not teasing, more as an identifier.
But also she is complimented on her hair every time she leaves the house! People love the colour (plus she has a lot of it).
If your child turns out to be red fantastic! It's a rare colour and a beautiful. But yes there are still people who may tease them, but kids don't will find any little difference and tease others about it!

You really can’t tell at this age.

Time to give your mum a little fright I think!

’Oh maybe not today, could we leave it until next week to see you? I don’t know, I’m just not in the mood for mean comments about red hair today! Let’s make a date next week, ok?’

The most effective way to shut this down is to let her know (and actions speak louder than words remember!) that if she’s going to make you feel bad or overstep or be rude, she’ll simply see much less of you and your baby. She’s there making her comments in your home while cuddling your baby because YOU are giving her permission to be there… permission you can politely but firmly change your mind about at any time.

No arguing or any discussion with her justifying why she should be allowed to be rude to you 🤣 just a polite withdrawal of privileges 🙂🙃

It doesn't look ginger to me. It looks brown. With his scalp showing through it can look to have a red tinge but it's brown.

He’s got beautiful hair.

I have to pay loads to have ginger hair!

The cradle cap makes it look more gingery than it actually is.

It’s too early to tell really - baby hair can change so much. One of mine was born with black hair, was a blonde toddler and now it’s dark blonde/brown at 6. The other was very gingery as a baby and is now blonde but has a lovely red streak at the back. She is very freckly as well.

I was actively hoping for a red haired child as my mum has red hair and I love it! (Also means I definitely carry the ginger gene).

My dds hair was just like that when she was a baby, it looks like this now. Ginger/red/strawberry blonde hair is beautiful.

My DD's (5) hair was this colour at that age, its slightly darker now. Other red haired girls in school especially the older ones always make a fuss of her, it seems to be like a members only club 😂

Times have changed, your mum sounds horrible.

Yes looks ginger to me, I love ginger hair.

Possibly!
I’d have loved to have been born with red hair, it’s beautiful. Some of my most gorgeous friends are true ginger/redheads, it must come with the hair colouring!!
Tell your mum to wind her bloody neck in.

I would come down on an absolute ton of bricks if my mum ever said anything so pathetic.
If she said it again I would tell her I'm going to limit contact with her because you don't want him getting negative comments from his own family.

What a dick she is.

I wasn't even fully born before the midwife had commented negatively on my hair colour!

Looks like it.

Yes I love ginger hair I think things have changed a lot since your mums generation

My DD who is 3 has the most beautiful curly ginger hair. I'm hoping it stays like it!

Lovely to read the posts whose children haven't had any bullying because of it. I'd like to think that kind of attitude is out dated, it probably is adults more than children who think it's a negative thing.