Toddler is aggressive towards grandmother

[sarahoob]

My son is almost three. He is very energetic and well.. a boy..

When dad is around, he doesn't act up at all. When I am around, it's the typical behavior of knowing he can get away with more so he is a little more aggressive.. but the majority of the time I am able to remain calm and eventually calm him down.

Me and my husband both work full time and my mother who is 67 watches him during the day at her house. We cannot afford childcare where we are.

He gets SUPER aggressive with her. He will punch her, kick her, slap her, pull her hair. He has even broken some of her glasses. Both me and my husband have attempted to discipline him and tell him when he does this that he is being bad. I am not sure the reasoning for this, but it is getting to the point to where she might not be able to watch him anymore and honestly, that is worst case scenario for our family.

We have tried more naps, going to sleep earlier, etc. Does anybody else experience this or have any advice?

Lucky you that your mother (the same age as I am) can do this. I for one can't. Neither it seems can the OP's mother. We aren't all the same.

I think you do need to look at alternative childcare at least part of the week.

3yos can really hurt (I have a very strong one and she hurt me bad if she has a full blowout, which luckily is rare) - you need to be careful it doesn't accidentally lead to eg a fracture at her age.

Also the behaviour is communicating something?

Does your DM have a very different parenting style? You little one is obviously distressed