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Teacher has a "bad list"

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Chloephilips · 12/09/2024 20:33

Before bed my DD who is 5 has said that the teacher has a bad list in the classroom and writes children's names on it. Concerning enough but then I asked what the children did to be put on the bad list and she said they were too slow finishing their work, they are in year 1. Think its really worrying and dont know if I should say something to the teacher as my DD is now worried she'll be put on it if she can't do her work quick enough

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TheSnootiestFox · 14/09/2024 14:55

Lavender14 · 14/09/2024 14:36

Children are learning right from wrong. And sometimes they just have bad days and sometimes they just have more going on than they can handle. Right into teenage years until brain development is complete which happens as a young adult. None of that means they aren't decent kids because they're acting out. The attitude of not being able to distinguish the child from the behaviour is the problem. All children are decent, some need more help than others to behave in ways that are safe and appropriate.

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I had unspeakable things happening to me when I was a teenager and not once did I 'act up' or disrupt the learning of myself or others. Condoning such behaviour is everything that's wrong with schools and it's that attitude that needs calling out, not mine. Now go and lecture someone else.

BigJean · 14/09/2024 15:16

TheSnootiestFox · 14/09/2024 14:55

I had unspeakable things happening to me when I was a teenager and not once did I 'act up' or disrupt the learning of myself or others. Condoning such behaviour is everything that's wrong with schools and it's that attitude that needs calling out, not mine. Now go and lecture someone else.

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Not all teenagers have the resources to be so balanced and be able to respond to adversity in a rational way.

All humans are different, it’s not condoning bad behaviour to recognise that and realise that some children need more support to learn how to control their reactions, especially when they are children. The widespread and increasing lack of support over the past 10-15 years is having the effect that many of us have predicted.

RedRobyn2021 · 14/09/2024 20:00

Chloephilips · 12/09/2024 20:33

Before bed my DD who is 5 has said that the teacher has a bad list in the classroom and writes children's names on it. Concerning enough but then I asked what the children did to be put on the bad list and she said they were too slow finishing their work, they are in year 1. Think its really worrying and dont know if I should say something to the teacher as my DD is now worried she'll be put on it if she can't do her work quick enough

This is fucked up, I would definitely say something

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Lavender14 · 14/09/2024 21:11

TheSnootiestFox · 14/09/2024 14:55

I had unspeakable things happening to me when I was a teenager and not once did I 'act up' or disrupt the learning of myself or others. Condoning such behaviour is everything that's wrong with schools and it's that attitude that needs calling out, not mine. Now go and lecture someone else.

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I'm not lecturing, just stating an opinion on an open forum. Naturally some children will be quieter when in distress. But all children handle distress differently. So while I empathise with your experiences I don't agree with the point you're making.

autienotnaughty · 14/09/2024 21:56

grafittiartist · 12/09/2024 20:50

We used to put names on a board of pupils as sanctions/ warnings about behaviour.
Helpful for them to see what their behaviour is leading to, (further sanction's) and for us to keep track of and record.
Secondary.

Why not go the whole hog and get a dunce hat?

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