Calling LO names

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I need some advice please.
My partner and I are from different countries. He is from Ireland and his entire family lives in Ireland - we live overseas.
The issue I am having is the way him and his family address our newborn.
I know the Irish have a crude way to express themselves sometimes and it’s not meant in a harmful way. I don’t mind them swearing but I have a real issue that this is done towards my newborn.
Examples how they adress LO are: little shit, motherfcker, little fcker
They don’t shout at LO and it’s meant in a funny way, ‘How are you, you little sh*t?’ But I absolutely hate it. I find it so disrespectful.

My partner obviously sees no issue as his parents behaved that way towards him too when he was little. He thinks I am surpressing his culture for asking him to not do it. He doesn’t do it all the time tbf but his side of the family does it almost every time they engage with LO.

No I don’t like it either. Very interesting hearing from other Irish people. Could you show your partner this thread? Where I live people call their kids “little cow bag” they think this is a cute term of indeerment and one woman on social media calls her “the cuntlings” it makes me cringe! I hate it! But each to their own I suppose but if someone called my child anything like that I’d have something to say about it

Just in case you don't realise - feck is a much, much milder swear word than fuck is.
There's a huge difference. Irish people who wouldn't dream of saying fuck use it.
Generally used in much the same way except, importantly, there are no sexual connotations to feck. There's no such thing as a motherfecker for example!

Irish here too & don't know anyone who talks to children like that. Occasionally have heard a milder version of the f-word said about a child (eg ah the little fecker had me up all night) - which is more a term of endearment, but not in a million years directed at a baby/child or such harsh words as motherf#cker ever used in connection with a child.

It’s still much too close to ‘fuck’ in my eyes!
We heard it EVERYWHERE in Dublin, it actually made me jump every time, said with an Irish accent it definitely sounds like ‘fuck’.
One of the reasons I’ve never wanted to go back.

I live in ireland, this is not normal. I don't know anyone who would speak to a baby like that.

My fathers side were all Irish and I was addressed like this growing up, it never bothered me at all, but I would absolutely hate it if my children were to be addressed like this, so no, you aren’t being unreasonable to be annoyed by this OP

Christ they sound rough, OP

As an Irish mother to two raucous boys I have been known to say "oh he can be a little fecker" but that's the extent of it. Our pet names would be more like, little man, little one, little chap, Mikey moo is my youngest & little monster, all fairly innocuous

Well, if they were saying feck then it's your misunderstanding and unfamiliarity with the meaning of the word that's the problem.

Not sure that's what they were saying if it actually sounded like fuck though? The words do sound different, in any accent I would think.

Parts of Dublin are rough and best avoided by visitors anyway. This includes O'Connell St so very central. Sorry you had a poor experience.

We don’t live in Ireland and really only see the family a couple times a year. We do facetime a lot though. I have never seen them engage with a baby ever even though they’re a very big family and some aunts etc have children, but again our contact with them is so minimal I wouldn’t have known. So mine was the first I personally witnessed.

The majority of people here say it’s not cultural at all which is very interesting to me. The couple of people commenting this is how their families behaved as well is also very interesting.

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"Im irish this is NOT normal"

Its pretty shocking tbh.

“The wee shite” was as extreme as it got among my Irish relatives. And even then only rarely.