How often have you left your kids in their lifetime?

[Isitjustme20]

Just wondering!

what do you mean by “ left”?

Left them where ? School? Holiday?

Holiday!

Countless. Started off as a few hours when they were days old.

Several times.

GP was happy to have them a few nights when they were months old. When they were 4/2, we left them for 4 nights with friends who were looking to adopt.

We regularly looked after friends' children for the weekend so they could have time away. They did the same for us.

Why do you ask?

Never, we just don’t have anybody to have them. I’ve spent the grand sum total of one night away from one of them which was when I was in the hospital having the other one!

I don’t think I’d go on holiday without them but a weekend lie in would be amazing.

Holiday? Never. For school etc, most days.

I tend to go away with friends once or twice a year for weekends but haven't left my kids for longer. They always stay with my husband though as they don't have anyone else to care for them.

For holidays, never. We enjoy the family holidays. Overnight probably quite a few times. Sometimes parties and couples gatherings run late. Also left my children who were then DS14 and DD8 for quite a while unsupervised when I had my youngest daughter and they didn't burn the house down or anything lol. A friend did come over to collect them eventually. Now they're both in their twenties and late teens and very capable of staying alone

In general? From when they days old. Back to work FT at 12 weeks so they went to nursery.

Overnight? Started at 6 weeks.

More than a night? A weekend when DS was 6 months, DTwins will also be 6 months when we go away for a weekend.

Next year, we’re going away for a week. They will be 2 and 1. Can’t wait.

Never. 7 yo.

My 8 year old, twice. My 6 year old, once. One night we went to an awards ceremony. Another night we went to a friend's 40th birthday.

We've never been away without them.

DS1 spent a night with my Mum at about 18 months, and he and his brothers stayed overnight with friends from about 7 or very occasionally with their cousins. My mum babysat at our home, but not overnight. But as there were 3 of them, very few people we knew had the space and the inclination to take them all together. So individually they would stay with friends, but not all at the same time. I did have a couple of mates who had them all overnight a few times, and we returned the favour, but I'd say we had about 5 nights without any of them over the whole of their childhoods.

Oh! Was going to say loads, evenings etc. But if holidays only, then two. Once less than a week, me and DH went away for my 30th bday.

Second time again less than a week - 5 days - solo trip so they were with their daddy.

DH has left them loads for work.

DD has only been ‘left’ like this once as she wasn’t born when I turned 30.

The kids have actually left me more than I’ve left them - gone to stay with their grandparents a few times.

Loads of times! We enjoyed ski holidays when we first got married and we’re lucky that my parents were keen to have the children for a week while we went on our own, just until they were old enough for ski school. So probably from age 6 months to 4 ish.

We also had a summer holiday together so the children did not miss out!

This lifestyle came to a halt when mortgages rates went sky high in the late 1980’s and after a couple of years of no holidays, my mum helped us buy a caravan so we could have a couple of weeks in France.

After the ski holidays, I did not really leave the children with anyone for more than a weekend.

Aged 12 & 11… probably every other year for 2-3 nights for a city break together & every year for a work thing just me probably 10 nights a year total (usually singular nights). Once, both went away for a work thing which was 6 days. They were around 7 then.
everyone is fine, happy, no issues, they stay with my parents who they see pretty much most days anyway.

Quite a lot, she's 16 now. We're lucky that we have a very large and involved family who have always been happy to have her. I've had solo holidays and left her with husband, he's done the same leaving her with me, and we've had a few holidays without her while she's had an adventure with grandma or one of her aunties and uncles.

Many many times

Left with grandparents overnight from when they were five, this carried on and then at seven they began going to PGL.

Brownie camps, cub camps, guide camps, scout camps.

The grandparents had them for weekends regularly until they were about 12.

Then they started doing school trips - ski trip, battlefields trip etc.

When they were younger we stayed in the U.K./stayed close but as they got older we travelled abroad. Had some lovely holidays!

No idea. My job requires travel. They have been left multiple times from a few months old.

Only gone on holiday without her twice - but DD was also on a school trips abroad each time so wasn’t exactly missing me anyway!

I can only thing of one mini break dh and I went on when we left the dcs.
We did leave them with each other whilst the other went away.
We struggled to get time away to be fair due to lack of childcare.

Multi nights never.
Not that I wouldn't if I had the chance, just as a single parent it would feel weird to go away on my own without DD id want to share it with her.If I had a partner to go with for a adult holiday I might do. DD has been away fr me for multiple nights though when visiting her DDads family or school trips.

Odd overnight from 4, I travel for work fairly regularly now for overnight stays and DD is most put out with one of her grandparents staying.

My mother used to do this with her DP. It made me sad to be left behind so I've vowed never to do it.

If I go on holiday my little daughter comes with me.

Every week when they go to their dads for 3 days since they were 5 and 3

Never been on holiday without them (and they are 17 and 19!) Am having a weekend away shortly (without DH) which will be the first time I've been on holiday without them; he's never done it. Otherwise, have only both left for work things (one night on their own age 15 and 17; one night on own for 16yo last year; 2 nights on own for 17yo this year).

We have never had anyone we thought it would be fair to leave them with for us to go on holiday. We'd have asked DM in an emergency (and she had DD whilst I gave birth to DS), but as she's widowed we never felt it fair to leave them with her whilst we swanned off on holiday. If we'd had a set of GPs then maybe we'd have done it for a weekend if they'd been happy to take them.

We intend to enjoy some holidays as a couple from next year.