Mum favouring grandchildren

[Clumsy12345]

Has anyone been in a situation where their mum treats your children very very different from your other nieces or nephews? So I have 4 children my brother has 2 my mum has his 2 children literally every week, overnight for sleep overs you name it but she has them every week whenever they want. But she will never ever have mine im a lone parent and my brother and his gf are in a relationship. Not only that but she posts constant pictures of them up her WhatsApp again I'm talking daily, at least 10 different pics on her status but never any of mine. Also she has pics of them all round the house but again none of mine. For Christmas she bought mine gifts from the charity shop (I'm not a snob if that's all she can afford) but it isn't as she let me know she bought them a £300 play house for the garden, as she was telling me it's better than the one I bought my daughter. The items she bought them weren't even thoughtful think fisher price preschool toys for a 5 year old. Has anyone been in a situation like this where their mum treats grandchild very different? I stopped speaking to her last year because of it. She knows my kids dad isn't involved so I never get a single minute to myself but will watch me struggle meanwhile my brother and his gf are very much together and she has a huge family and loads of sisters that help her out too whereas I have no one just feels weird she would happily watch me struggle. Just wondered if anyone had been in this situation and why would a mother treat her grandchildren so obviously different?

Yes I know 4 are harder but the point is she doesn’t even ask to have 1 or 2 and if I ask she isn’t able to for whatever reason. It’s nothing to do with my children’s “behaviour” 😒 my brother is the oldest and has always been the golden child. If you think it’s about my children’s behaviour that doesn’t explain all the photos and none of mine or buying my kids bits from the charity shop and those kids £300 play houses you think that’s ok to treat your grandchildren so differently?

Mine are older

Yes he is the oldest and was always the golden child she makes it no secret he is her favourite I just didn’t think she would treat the children so obviously different she was interested in my children until he had his children then it was like a switch.

I read these posts and I am stunned, how can these GPs justify this behaviour. My Mum absolutely worshipped my ds. He was her1st gc and she was beside herself. My ds and dB and I went on 2 give her 8 more gcs. She loved,cared and spoilt them all. She just had a little gleam in her eye when she saw her eldest gc. I have feel so sorry for you all. I wouldn't expose my children to this vile behavior any more than strictly nessersary.

My mom does this to me

Mil is like this all about her youngest gdd we taken a step back and don't see them often. My oldest dd said she was mils least favourite grandchild. Says it all really.__

is she punishing you for the mistakes she made -or because she had a hard life bringing up DCs you should suffer the same (of course this won’t apply to her male child).

Yes I believe that’s part of it, she said she didn’t have any help so why should I. Difference was her parents and siblings lived in the north of England and she moved down to London so of course they wouldn’t have been able to help. She lives 10 minutes away from me.

Yep, this is my mother in law. My husband still talks to them occasionally, years ago after so many times my kids were left out or slighted they asked me why grandma hated them. That was the final straw for me and I do not bother with them at all any more! The other grandchild is the absolute light of their life and they would do absolutely anything for them even as an adult. Life’s too short to waste love and attention on people who don’t wish to receive it.

That’s the weird part it’s usually the MIL who favours her daughter’s children, in my case it’s my mum who favours my brother’s children. Seems much more common the other way not that either is ok 🙁

My dad doesn't bother his arse with his own biological grandchildren, but travels an hour each way twice a week on a bus to provide childcare for his girlfriend's grandson.

My PILs are lovely and bend over backwards to be fair to all 4 GCs (2 + 2).

My SIL does get more financial help from them but thats their money and they can choose what to do with it. It's is a bit annoying to me when we are all on holiday together, my wife and I have struggled to get the money together yet SIL and partner and kids get paid for.

All I'll say is, I know which GPs house my kids will be visiting when they are elderly and it won't be my dad.

Only get what you give.