Basically what the title says. I have very recently put an end to my 7 year relationship. We have 2 DS , 2 years old and 9 months old.
We have agreed to them seeing their daddy at the minute mid day Wednesday to mid day Friday one week and mid day Friday to mid day Sunday on rotation.
its only the first week and my heart is in a million pieces. I want to know if you have been in this situation either as the child of separation or as a parent that is currently dealing with this how have your children coped?
for a bit of background I have been putting up with (on and off) verbal abuse. It’s mad I can’t think when I sit to write this down but being called a retard, and fucking spastic if I can’t understand something he’s trying to tell me. I’m ‘a control freak’ when I tell him it’s not ok to make plans and change them at the last minute. I am a ‘money grabber’ because I was earning less on maternity leave and he had to put more money than me into the house as I was and still am earning less.
It’s been going on so long that even as I write this I don’t even think it’s that bad. Someone please tell me from an outsiders point of view without judging
anyway sorry back to the point… there is an hour drive for my little sons when they want to see their dad and the eldest (2) has been crying since he left for him saying things like ‘daddy go?’ And ‘daddy’s van go?’ When looking out the window for him or if there’s someone at the door that isn’t him he’s shouting ‘daddy home!’ It truly is breaking my heart. They are up at their dads at the minute and he is crying for me.
Please tell the honest truth if you regretted the separation or if things got better
thank you so much for reading