Boy mum

[Gifgaf]

Just found out I am having a baby boy after two girls. What is it like being a boy mum ?

Is it true what they say about the relationship between a boy and his mum ? Thanks all ❤️

Of course they are different. However, I can't stand women who also push this "feminist" agenda out there when reality is we are not the same and it shows everywhere. Not being the same, doesn't have to mean oppression either, we are not living in the 1920's. I personally want my son to grow up holding strong moral values and hopefully one day marry a strong minded woman but for him to also uphold his family & household because reality is women want that and deserve that for everything else we do and go through. It's not a bad thing, unless you make it one. Also as a little girl, I loved my parents both but reality is my mum was the nurturing one as I guarantee 9/10 women are and my dad I saw as my protector. That's not to say my mum wouldn't save my life either but generally speaking.

That's really nice to hear. I hope I have the same with mine 🫶🏻

Your 2 girls are different to each other, right? So the third will be different again, a whole person not just their chromosomes :)

Yes that's true but my girls are still very similar in many ways. This whole post has blown out in directions I wasn't even trying to touch on. I simply wanted to hear what having a boy was like for others. For some, no difference for others there are some differences. I am really excited about having a boy and my parenting will be the same but I am sure I will experience different things to what I experience currently with my daughter's. Typical mumsnet tbh.

You deffo will! But you would if it was a third girl too. Boys are wonderful, good luck with it all!

I can't stand women who also push this "feminist" agenda
Between feminist in inverted commas and the comment on DH not ‘softening’ his son, this thread cannot be real. If it is 😬.

Yes true, but thank you ☺️

@Gifgaf in all respects, you are speaking only for yourself there.

No need for "feminist" to be in quotes. It's not about saying that men and women are identical, it's about them being of equal worth and value. About equal opportunities and not discriminating against women. And you don't have to go back to 1920 for that, 1990s would do, for example, when rape within marriage became illegal.

Do you think that children can't have strong moral values unless you treat them differently as boys and girls? How do other people instil morals in their children if they don't conform to sex-based stereotypes? Just a thought.

Yep. OP’s post are getting progressively worse and the veneer is certainly starting to come off…..

As real as you interjecting as a grammar police. I'll do better next time 😁

Hear hear 👏

I have 2 of each. All pre-puberty though. The big difference is happy changes. Oh god getting poo off the foreskin if a wriggly toddler..... nightmare. Per spraying in erratic patterns beyond the changing mat.... yuck. I mean it's not like it's every time, but the nappy disasters are more disaaterous.

I do think boys take a bit longer with potty training too, which is a faff.

My boys are no more/less affectionate than my girls. Some things to fit the stereotypes though - more into building than colouring. Slightly less good at cooperative play in the toddler years.

Your baby will be its wonderful self. I don't think there are significant differences until you're heading towards puberty. I really enjoyed reading "raising boys"

My point had nothing to do with grammar and everything to do with you feeling feminism should be in quotation marks. Feminism is about equality. Not about being identical.
Do you think it’s wrong if your daughters with the same qualifications and experience get paid less for doing exactly the same job as your son? If you do…Congrats! You’re a feminist. Not a “feminist”.

This. Except I have 3. 2 of one and one of other.

They like to go shopping a lot and mine have turned out to be very girly.

the dc who hates shopping with a passion in my family, is a girl.

Each child is an individual. You are not doing them any favours promoting this sexist rubbish.
My girls haven't had any friendship dramas. It isn't to be expected at all.

The only thing that is different because they are a boy is their ability to spray you with wee when you take their nappy off.

Anyways lovely people, thank you for the thought-out comments & for the advice & sharing of experiences. Please don't approach everything you see on the internet as a form of attack, it's just Mumsnet. Enjoy your life and your lovely children, and I will of course do the same. Blessings to you all, even for the rude ones 🫶🏻

Boy mum here - I have 5 boys (men now!) no girls. I would have been very happy with daughters too but it didn't happen! I can tell you, my boys are a joy 🥰 pretty laid back, made me laugh a lot, ate me out of house and home and wore me out! I would say definitely closer to me than DH when they were younger but he worked away a lot so it was mostly me who took care of them. Now they are older, it's evened out - they go to the pub quiz with their dad and music gigs and have a close relationship with us both.