Boy mum

[Gifgaf]

Just found out I am having a baby boy after two girls. What is it like being a boy mum ?

Is it true what they say about the relationship between a boy and his mum ? Thanks all ❤️

Absolutely.
No bloody way DH and I having DD brought up to different behavior standards because she's not a boy.
Both teachers, see this all the fucking time

I definitely don't want to excuse any behaviour simply because of their genders. I experienced that myself growing up. However, if someone asks me what it's like being a girl mum I don't think I'll get so defensive over it. I'll simply outline what my experience has been like with having my girls and expect someone else will have a different experience. I always find on the internet people get really upset whereas in real life, I never come across such reactions. It's really meant to be a light hearted post not to stir arguments. Even sharing the experience of changing them is enough information for me to know. It doesn't have to get so political.

It's easier when boys are little and need a wee somewhere/potty training.

Hair stuff is easier (of course some boys have long hair/girls short hair).

DS seemed to breeze through puberty and I feel sorry for primary aged DD with all the shite coming her way with periods etc. that's not a parenting issue per se, I just think girls have it harder in many ways than boys although the suicide rate amongst young men/knife violence has always played on my mind.

I guess that's a pro with having a boy. I hate taking my girls to any public toilets for obvious reasons but sometimes there really isn't a choice and for girls it's much harder!

I have two teenagers, a boy and a girl. Based on this experience, I would say that the main difference is that boys will cost you a fortune in shoes because they outgrown children's sizes before they hit their full growth spurt.

@Gifgaf I'm not upset, I'm describing a well understood social phenomenon and explaining the negative impact it can have.
We all know that we have a huge problem with male violence and aggression in our society. It doesn't come from nowhere.

As a mother of boys, I could tell you about specific practicalities like toileting, differences around puberty and so on. Nothing else is relevant, their individual characters are the important factor.

For sure I think girls have it harder but then boys also struggle in their own macho ways. I literally can't wait to raise a son who is respectful and kind and is not afraid to show emotions and that it doesn't make him "less manly". However, not to everyone's taste but as a woman there are certain norms I want my husband to have as he does with me but that doesn't have to be a bad thing always.

Oh that is very true I guess.

I am just generally speaking, not directing at you specifically. Yeah, I just want to know literally any experiences with having a boy as I feel I am already well rounded on raising girls. With my daughter, they are quite high maintenance and cost me a fortune but that's because their dad fully spoils them. They are also quite gentle in their emotions compared to what I have seen with my nephews. They like to go shopping a lot and mine have turned out to be very girly. I'd say I can relate more to them as a female myself in many ways but I don't know how much I will be able to relate to my son given boys can be quite different. That doesn't have to mean I am planning to let them get away with things simply because they're a boy!

I’ve got 3 girls. So I guess that makes me a girl-mum.
That sounds so weird. I’ve never heard this said before.

I know everyone is different regardless of their gender but we have a saying back home that girls generally are more gentle souls and look out for their parents more, whereas boys once they get married there is less attention. From what I have seen in my time, I have seen that to be true in most cases. That doesn't mean boys are careless and rude but there is definitely some difference

Because people continue to trot out the 'a boys yours til he takes a wife' bollocks.
If you raise your son to think he doesn't have to remember birthdays, buy Christmas gifts or visit his parents once he leaves home guess what will happen.

I don't know why I open these threads. They make me so angry.

My friend has twin boys. One is sweet, cuddly, loves his mum, Elsa, crafts and is quiet. The other is an active, sporty, dad-loving loud one.

My DD is more rowdy and better behaved than either of them. Because I parented well. The boys in DD's class started better behaved, ended up worse. Because 'boys will be boys'

I've got sons and daughters. My sons are more tactile but I do t know if that's just them or if that's a 'boy thing'.

The biggest issue with bringing up boys I've found is the sheer volume of other people's opinions directed towards them. My eldest loved playing with prams and I lost count of the amount of times I heard someone tell him it was a girls toy. I said so many times that 'there's no such thing as boys toys and girls toys' that it became a bit of a refrain in our home.

Now he's older, he's quite a sensitive soul, we get comments about him not getting upset 'like a baby/toddler' and also that he's too old now to be playing games and with toys - he should be out playing football or in on his PlayStation apparently.

I'm very feministy and before having sons I'd have waxed lyrical to you about the pressure placed on girls to conform when they're younger but actually the exact same thing occurs to boys just with different stereotypes. It actually makes me quite sad when I see him trying to fit into this little mould that he doesn't want to be in. But as with daughters, all you can do is try your best to give them the tools they need to be themselves and let them get on with it!

Ah well I'm not girly in the slightest and intensely dislike shopping. I would not have very much in common with you, despite being the same sex. See how that works?

Your children are 50% your DNA, you will have so many things in common with them. I look at my boys and see my blue eyes looking back at me. We had the same hair colouring and texture, I have the same sense of humour as my eldest and similar interests in books/film etc. Unsurprisingly, because I've brought him up and we share our DNA!

I've got one of each. 13 months between them and they spent an hour this evening chasing each other round the house roaring because they are dinosaurs. Yesterday they were both dogs. I've already been told they will be having a lay in tomorrow as they need to be well rested so they can be sharks, the eldest is 3. So all in all it's pretty similar raising boys and girls in this house.

I'm laughing at the post where you say girls "tend to be more chilled" than boys OP! I'm not sure I know anyone who would agree with that tbh! I wouldn't describe either of my children as "chilled" but my DD is definitely more 'intense' than my DS and always has been. My DPs would definitely say the same about me and my DSis compared to my lovely DB too, coincidentally.

You also need to be the same sex to embrace their interests. DD loves arts, crafts, singing, dancing and pop music. I have no interest in any of those but I embrace them for her. DS loved/loves sports/football which I embraced and took him to football/training. I love to see them enjoy and develop in their own interests. It's important to let all kids be individuals and not mini versions of their parents

I did used to find shopping for DS very boring- the boys' ranges seem a lot more limited than girls' ranges but I've never been a fan of this notion of girls as little princesses. I always make sure DD had comfy suitable footwear and mainly wears leggings/shorts if we're going out somewhere she needs to climb etc.

That should say you DON'T need to be the same sex to embrace their interests.

Another one who is curious about “what they say” about being a boy mum???

I have 3 daughters and one son , my son is the most chilled out of all of them , he was never wild or boisterous , he loved playing outside all the time in his welly’s and carrying trains in his pockets tho , I wouldn’t say bringing girls up feels any different tho , all very loving.

It's exactly the same as being a girl mum.
I have one of each and yes I parent them different and get different things back from them both but that's because they are 2 different people not because they are a boy and girl

I had two girls followed by a boy. So far, DS is being parented exactly the same as our girls were but he’s only 4mo. Our girls are drastically different personalities though so we just parent the children they are regardless of their sex.

I will say that changing a boy nappy is much more faffy than changing a girl. So many more places for poo to hide which I never would have believed before. He’s also managed to wee on his own face so many times! 😂

Both of my girls are complete mummy’s girls so we’ll have to see if DS follows that too.

I only have a boy and he is a dream come true xx

My boy baby was extremely similar to my girl baby. Sleep, food, cuddles, cry. I used the same approach to raise my boy and girl who are now 9 and 11. I don't understand what boy mums and girl mums are meant to be.

Well yeah, you're a mum to girls so that would make you a girl mum.