Boy mum

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Just found out I am having a baby boy after two girls. What is it like being a boy mum ?

Is it true what they say about the relationship between a boy and his mum ? Thanks all ❤️

That's lovely, can't wait as well

No definitely not. However, when you're married, priorities do change unless you think your husband's parents come before you and your children ? I have unconditional love for my parents as my husband does for his & give them every ounce of respect and "gifts" even putting a deposit for their house but when it comes down to it, our marriage and children come before everyone else, as it should.

I guess for me, it's people I've spoken to and also kids I have seen in family and friends circles. I can't talk for every kid that exists but the majority I've seen and quite chilled 🤷🏻‍♀️

Absolutely this!

You don't but in my case it worked out that way

😮 poor thing, someone else said about them peeing on themselves 😂🥰

But you seem to be implying that this is the case for men but not for women. Both sexes grow up and in most instances have their own family so why do boys need to dump their parents for their partner and children but women don't?
Ask an Italian if boys move out and never see their family again. It is cultural not genetic

Sorry that should have included the OPs post about spouse and kids coming before parents.

Generally boys tend to be closer to their mums and girls tend to be closer to their dads. Doesn't mean you love them less because of their gender or favour them over genders. Again, it won't apply to EVERYONE but you do see a difference sometimes that's all I was curious about. My mum loves me and my sister but she also can be different when it comes to my brother, and my dad loves his kids as well but he defo has a soft spot for me and my sister. I see this with my husband and my girls and I can only imagine he won't soften or spoil his son like his daughters but with that being said he will love them all unconditionally the same. I also do come from a traditional background as does my husband and no I don't want to follow everything society tells you to accept today. However, I am not controlled or abused but I do have some strong beliefs in certain things 🤷🏻‍♀️ not everyone I know.

This. Two boys and a girl here. CBA with all this ‘girl mum boy mum’ crap. It just perpetuates the stereotypes.

I didn't say boys should dump their parents but generally speaking girls do tend to think of their parents more even after marriage and kids. In my culture a lot of men still live with their parents while married but the behaviours are still very different. Again DOES NOT apply to EVERYONE. Only speaking from what I have seen.

"Generally boys tend to be closer to their mums and girls tend to be closer to their dads. "

It might be the case in your family, but it's not universal nor even common. It has its roots in regressive sexism. I'd be doing everything I could to reject and refute it, rather than see it as a foregone conclusion and expect it from your children.

It's really harmful to go along with any stereotypes for boys or girls. Your children will be individuals, treating them as the individuals that they are will be one of the best things you can do for them.

Nothing is universal but this is what I have generally seen, even outside my culture.

You're getting a lot of slack but i think i understand what you mean. I have one of each, both parented and bought up exactly the same. My girl fits the stereotypical girl mold and my boy is the stereotypical boy mold. Yet both were given the same access to toys, experiences etc plus both same diet - (healthy, limited sugar etc). My boy is a bundle of energy, wont sit still, hot tempered, extremely cuddly and loving with me, gravitates to running about, climbing anything and everything, short attention span. Loves cars, nerf guns, footballs, farting etc etc . My girl is the opposite, will happily sit for ages doing crafts, arts, more polite, calmer, loves dolls, trinkets, furry toys and so on.

In my opinion its purely personality type, not gender that influences things. It could just as easily have been that i'd had a girl and she took on the stereotypical 'boy' attributes instead and vice versa.

One thing i will say that i've noticed with my own and fellow friend mums who have boys - boys do seem to be close to their mums and display more affectionate behaviour. Mine is very cuddly even though my daughter had way outgrown physical affection by his age. I also think it's more usual for boys to be more boisterous and on the go (again, i'm generalising here but on the whole) based on what i've seen from classmates and friends kids.

You'll love being a boy mum, its great

Sure to an extent. I don't feel damaged by any. "stereotyping" done on me. As I got older If I disagreed, I changed it. Boys and girls deserve the same respect at all costs. However, I am not in denial that men are different to women in many ways. It's cute to live in a bubble thinking we are identical when we are not! As a grown woman, I do not want a husband that also acts like a woman. We can both work just as hard and provide for the family & also help each other with the kids and household but I also want a strong man who I can lean on. I genuinely don't mean it from a bad heart and maybe I am not putting out there in the gentle manner others want to hear but these are my feelings and thoughts and so far it's worked for my household and everyone else around me. However, it may not work for everyone else and that's fine.

Well one TikTok video I have recently seen was a boy mum sending a message to her son's future girlfriend who will be thinking she's his first kiss. She was miming or singing along to these lyrics "Girl I ain't trying to be mean, but before you there was me"..... 😳She also captioned it saying sorry not sorry can't take it away from her #boymom

I have a mix of boys and girls. My most chilled, laid back, never tantrumed child is one of the boys. My most energetic, had the most tantrums, argumentative, always launching themselves into the next project child is also a boy. Both now teenagers.
My most affectionate and least affectionate children are boys. All of them tell me they love me but some are more demonstrative than others!
It really is so much down to personality.
But we've had a million more friendship dramas with the girls so that does seem to be a thing!!

No one's saying women and men are identical... the point is that everyone is different! Individuals.

Anyway, enjoy your new baby.

I can only imagine he won't soften or spoil his son like his daughters

Ok that is not the level I am going for 😂 & plus that's weird. If anything I want to teach my son the way to respect a woman in every single way and that will start with how he treats his sisters and me as his mother. Likewise, I also want to raise strong women who also show respect but also are not taken advantage of. Overall, the kind of people who someone else's kids won't be writing bad posts over (an example). However, that's my little bubble and I hope I can achieve that.

The friendship drama with girls, I see soooo much in my DD and my nieces. However, my nephews have had issues but generally get over it and move on. Kids do change as they get older of course. I was a complete rebel when I was young but I am probably fall into most "stereotypes' people don't like to hear with the kind of personality I have now. There really isn't an answer set in stone because it's very true with the different personalities. However, as they get older, there are some things that unfortunately stereotype or not are true.

Honestly they're all different. It's more yo do with personality than sex.
My DD is far more wild, loud, messy, noisy, sporty, adventurous than my DS, who is very quiet and self contained.
Both my kids are wonderful. As you're asking about boys I can say my DS is a real joy. We're incredibly close. He's 11 and is still very cuddly, loving and affectionate. He has a brilliant sense of humour too.

I have an 18 year old son.
We have always had so much fun together. Even now, we go the cinema together a few times a year (we love 80's fims) and we both love going to Comic con. We enjoy watching a series together with his dad/dh, watch a couple of episodes over tea when he's in. He's funny, affectionate, kind and lovely and we're always laughing about something. We're close, the 3 of us and it's down to personality and upbringing, not gender. I think older teenage boys/young men can actually be more affectionate than girls in many instances.

I've got 2 of each, all kids are individuals.