Do you regret the age gap between your kids?

[Lou98x]

DH and I have been discussing baby number 2 and what kind of age gap we should like between the DS and them. Interested to hear your opinions.

I know there’s no perfect age gap between siblings, and you have to work with what you have, etc. but I’m curious to know if any of you feel you left it too long between children, or had a second one too soon?

Do you think the sibling dynamic would’ve been different had you waited/not waited?

4 days short of 2 years between my two! Easier as they are getting older as they have similar interests. Also was still in the thick of it with the baby stage when ds2 came along so was used to not sleeping/changing nappies etc.

I am so sorry things didn't go well but hopefully you can take comfort that your children get on well now and will make many more memories that will overtake school memories. School memories tend to be something more shared with friends I find. Your memories with siblings tend to be usually centred on outside school. I'd try not focus too much something on this. You'll probably find your own children aren't that bothered about not being close in age at school!

If it's any consolation, I have a twin. We were in the same classes at school and same wider group of friends yet we weren't close then and aren't now. Age gaps aren't everything and the fact your two children do get on and are close is something to be proud of.

Thanks for all the responses - I know what matters more is personality etc., and we’d have no control over it anyway! DC2 will come whenever they feel like, and that will be the perfect age gap 😂