How close in age are your children

[newmumma32]

If you have more than one child, how close in age are they? Me and DH have been talking about trying for another in the future, we have a 6 month old. We're not trying at the moment yet we haven't been that careful either as if it happens it happens, we struggled to conceive our LO so another child would be so lovely whatever the age gap

19 months between 1 & 2
18 months between 2 & 3
tough as I’m currently in the thick of it (youngest is 3 months) but absolutely worth it so far

3.5 years between 1 & 2

60 seconds between 2 & 3

20months.

22months

5 year

3.5 years.

The eldest is nearly 6 now and everything is lovely but my youngest was a difficult baby and so the first 11 months were so, so, so hard. At my absolute worst I did not know how to go on. It was truly awful back then but as I say life is amazing now and I love having 2, they adore each other and play so well.

4yrs 8 months dc1 to dc2.
19 minutes between dc 2 and 3.
Took 4 years to conceive dc1 eventually had fertility treatment, further fertility treatment to have dt.
In an ideal world I'd have had them closer together but the pros were dc1 was at school when I had dt so had time to spend with them and dc1 was independent enough. Because it took so long to conceive them all any gap was an OK gap in the end!

There is 11 years between my oldest and youngest

26 months between 1 and 2
23 months between 2 and 3

3 years, mainly for childcare reasons tbh.

6 years 🥰 lovely as I feel like it's like having a firstborn all over again with my first love in school.

I know that I personally wouldn't have coped with a smaller age gap but everyone is different and that's what makes the world wonderful 😄 DS was also not a fan of eating or sleeping so I wanted to recover from that before going again. Thankfully DD seems to like both of those things so far... I don't know how I'd cope if she didn't though so worth baring in mind that you might have a slightly bigger "challenge" with number 2!

Don't they fight? We have almost the same age gap (a couple of months smaller) and my eldest just turned 6. My God, they seem to just fight if left alone together without a screen on like 80 per cent of the time. It's the little one who causes most of the issues.

I'm pregnant with the third now, there will be almost exactly 3yrs between second and third.

@inquisitiveinga I love our big gap also!
I always wanted them close in age, 2ish year but my first was a massive shock to the system!
I didn't cope well with the lack of sleep at all.

Really enjoying my second as I feel much calmer and know it doesn't last forever now!
Which also makes me feel guilty for how I feel with DS

21 months

@LegoHouse274 they fight / argue 20% of the time and that's always initiated by the toddler as my eldest is so chilled. The other 80% is wonderful and they play great and have a very loving relationship. I'm very lucky.

If I ever give the toddler a biscuit / ice cream or whatever she will never just eat it, she always has to make sure ds has one too before she can relax and enjoy!

I feel exactly the same - the mum guilt is real but I'm trying to be really kind on myself where and when I can be! It's also helped me to reflect on why I found it so difficult and how, in hindsight, it would've been impossible to have managed it all any differently with the skillset I had at the time. I feel I've healed as I used to beat myself up for the PND and struggles I had 6 years ago.

I feel I grew up with DS and he's like my best buddy, whereas I feel like the best mum to DD if that makes sense?

Also, sorry OP for going off on a tangent on your post! 💐

2 yrs 1 month between 1 and 2
4 years 9 months between 2 and 3

15 months between first two 🤯🤯 and 2.5 years gap til next baby.

2 years 4 months - so I got pregnant when first was about 19 months after a few months of trying.

Absolutely lovely age gap now they are 4&2. Little BFFs. Youngest will be LOST when the older one goes to school in Sept. :(

20 minutes between first and second.
17 months between first and third.
3 1/2 years between first and fourth.

19 months between mine. It was difficult at the time but is great now.

We have just over six years between ours, it worked reallly nicely for us as our son was settled in school and fairly independent before his sister came along, this also meant he was losing less of our time due to a new siblings needs and he could understand us if we had to explain why we couldn’t do a certain activity that day. He’s been old enough to get involved, and young enough to not think he’s too cool to help to look after his little sister. He’s nine now and still enjoys helping her, playing with her etc. Obviously the downside is when he is a teen she’ll be at the peak age of wanting his attention, and if he’s anything like most teenagers he’ll ignore her completely or try to be mean.

*I feel I grew up with DS and he's like my best buddy, whereas I feel like the best mum to DD if that makes sense?

Also, sorry OP for going off on a tangent on your post! 💐*

Absolutely agree.

Also sorry op!

Everyone I know with a 3 year or closer gap has a lot of family support on hand op, lots of relatives to babysit etc. What's your set up? We've got zero family nearby which is why it couldn't have been any closer than 3.5 years for us personally.

9 months between 1 and 2
9 minutes between 2 and 3