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Step father to my children swears at them when I’m not around

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AnonymouslySad · 11/07/2024 17:05

So I’m in complete despair and beyond fuming. I am married to the step father of my two children. Whenever we argue he blames the kids for the argument and when I leave the room he says things to them that quite frankly I’m appalled by. Today for instance, my son who is 10 years old, was starving after breakfast and went to get some cereal. Husband then tells child that’s his last bowl. I then interrupted and said he’s really hungry and I didn’t see why he couldn’t have more cereal as I think my son is going through a growth spurt. Husband then says ‘I knew you would pipe in’.

I then walked away and he told my children that they were f babies and that he was going to get them sweets from the shop but they could f*** do one! My children are 8 and 10 and I think this is unacceptable. He then shouts at them if they tell me what has been said once I’ve left the room. I’ve confronted him and he’s not denied it and is blaming the kids. This is not the first time this has happened. Am I being over sensitive or should I walk away for the sanity of my children?

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Marblessolveeverything · 11/07/2024 17:11

Protect your children and get them away from that horrible excuse for a human. Are you safe, have you anywhere to go, support etc?
You deserve better.

yeesh · 11/07/2024 17:13

He is vile. Leave for the sake of your children

mrsmalaprop · 11/07/2024 17:13

Put your children first. They didn't ask to have this man in their lives and he's not good for them. Does he even like them? Or you for that matter?

I'm willing to bet this is not the only way he is awful.

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NotAgainWilson · 11/07/2024 17:14

Do you really need to ask???

Honestly, if you are wondering if you are over reacting over this I dread to think of all those unacceptable flags and behaviours you might have been ignoring. It is not that he got from 0 to 100 in a day, is it?

Dreamerinme · 11/07/2024 17:15

Don’t walk, RUN. Now.

He is abusing your DC and is a despicable person. Think of how your DC are feeling with this horrible man in their lives.

EllenLRipley · 11/07/2024 17:16

He is NOT a step-father. He is an abusive cunt. Get rid.

StormingNorman · 11/07/2024 17:16

He hates your kids and this is child abuse.

wlv12 · 11/07/2024 17:21

😲 this man is abusing your children. Get out now!

Greatmate · 11/07/2024 17:22

He's verbally abusive to your children. He's a nasty bully. You need to leave him.

libertybonds · 11/07/2024 17:22

Leave

Soonenough · 11/07/2024 17:23

You even have to ask ? This man is no good. Hate the fact that you think it is even remotely OK. Your kids deserve to live in a safe secure environment and it is your responsibility to provide this . It trumps any desire of yours for a partner or companionship. Get rid of the bastard right away .

Devilsmommy · 11/07/2024 17:25

Walk away, tell him to fucking do one, twat

Foxblue · 11/07/2024 17:26

I'm going to be really blunt here:
If you stay, you are choosing to put your children in harms way. They will hate you for it, and rightly so. You don't need this man, you don't need ANYONE in your life who thinks it's okay to speak to children like this.

Namerchangee · 11/07/2024 17:26

Walk away. He is ruining your children’s childhood with his vile behaviour.

daisydalrymple · 11/07/2024 17:30

Please just get out of this marriage as soon as you can.

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VeronicaMars2023 · 11/07/2024 17:39

You need to protect your children. This is not acceptable behaviour from your husband, it’s outright abuse.

ColinMyWifeBridgerton · 11/07/2024 17:39

Come on OP. You don't need a load of strangers on a forum to tell you to walk away from a man who is abusing your children.

I would never allow anyone to talk to my children like that, and neither should you. He's setting an incredibly dangerous precedent by shouting at them for revealing his abuse of them to you. What other ways is he going to hurt them in, once he's bullied them into never telling you anything?

You are their mum. You can do this. Open you eyes, be strong. Save your children.

KreedKafer · 11/07/2024 17:42

Please walk away from this abusive bully now. He’s treating your poor children like shit.

Darkdiamond · 11/07/2024 17:45

If this is real, and you really are wondering if this is OK, no it isn't. But to be honest, unless you are very damaged yourself, or have come from a very dysfunctional or abusive home, it is astounding to think that you would need to ask this.

workshy46 · 11/07/2024 17:46

No one I know has EVER spoken to me the way he speaks to your children. I think I would be shocked and horrified beyond belief if they did. I cannot understand how you think it is an acceptable way for him to speak to them. That they will think that this is how they deserve to be treated and spoken to
Unless you get them away for their abuser you are setting them up for a lifetime of misery , poor boundaries and toxic relationships.

GetThatBloodyFaceOff · 11/07/2024 17:47

What a peculiar way to describe the situation - "married to the step-father to my children". He isn't their father, and he's a controlling, horrible bastard. Do you think your 2 children are happy? No, of course they aren't. Neither are you. You kids depend on you for love, stability, guidance and nurturing. You are not fulfilling your duty to them. Get that piece of shit out and away from your children.

Lavender14 · 11/07/2024 17:47

If it were me that man would be acquainting himself with the single life again.

Absolutely out of order and abusive towards your children.

misssunshine4040 · 11/07/2024 17:49

Why do you even need to ask?

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 17:53

This can't be real.

But if it is, get your children away from this bastard. They're just babies 😭

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