Let me tell you how I come to this conclusion about him as a person;
He relies on withdrawal for contraception
He doesn't stick to the withdrawal for contraception.
He doesn't suggest you get the MAP or express any opposition to the early pregnancy for 3 long months.
He lets you/encourages you to continue the pregnancy, then decides he doesn't fancy it when you've completed your first trimester
He suggested you have an abortion, a trimester into a pregnancy.
He fucked off.
He let you go through a pregnancy and give birth without the father there.
He hasn't seen his child once.
He doesn't pay anything towards his child.
So ..... He's a no integrity, irresponsible, flakey, changeable, foolish, scummy, immature, selfish, immoral piece of shit.
So, why do you want him around your previous, lovely child?????
He can have positive father figures eg granddad, uncle, teacher, cousin, footie coach, perhaps a partner of yours (who is introduced after a loooong time of of proving himself).
That thing who provided the sperm, without your permission or agreement, is not a positive father figure.
Put in a CM claim.
If he wants to shoot his baby batter up women without a condom, and change his mind about wanting a child 3 months in; he can pay towards the child's upkeep so you, your family and us, the tax payer, don't have to pay for him instead.