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aandriri · 01/07/2024 12:53

My 3 year old has suddenly developed a fear of spiders. It isn't just a fear, she is petrified. She has just wet herself because she refuses to go to the bathroom after seeing one in there. I can't get her to have a bath or shower. She won't walk to any other room for fear of them. I have tried the following:
Ridding all rooms of spiders, both before she enters and also showing her that I'm doing it, talking about how good spiders are and what they eat etc, telling her they won't hurt her, watching videos about spiders, ignoring them all together and trying to distract her...
What else can I do?
I've just had a big ol' cry because I can't help her.
P.S. I wouldn't be surprised if there's more to it as me and her dad separated end of last year, I've just had an operation and she's been staying with her dad more and then we've been at my parents' for the last couple of weeks, however she was like this before my operation at home, so I just don't know.
Any help would be so gratefully received! 🙏

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Yourethebeerthief · 01/07/2024 14:08

Poor wee thing. It may well be compounded by everything else going on in her life.

What do you do when she's upset and frightened? I've found with my son that if I talk directly to spiders like they're friends he responds well. I talk to them as I would our cat. Any opportunity I see one I involve him so that he's not frightened. I'll say "come and see the little friend I've found" and then we'll chat away to the spider for a while and then wave him on his merry way as he's got big adventures to go on or he's going back home to his family.

I fucking hate spiders 😬

MrsCeecee · 01/07/2024 15:03

Maybe some picture books about spiders? There’s a good Lydia Monks one - Arghh, spider! Good luck!

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