Key differences between having a boy vs a girl

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Just found out we’re having a girl 🙏🏽 and we already have a wonderful toddler boy..

I come from a mixed family, my husband does not. And I really want to prepare him (he’s asked too!) on what the key differences are between having boys and girls.

we’re honestly so blessed to be being getting one of each, never thought it would happen for us (we have had a real challenge with fertility and pregnancies).

would love to hear from you all on what you think are the key tips, differences and anything relevant!

As babies and toddlers my dd and ds were very similar tbh.

Treat them as people not genders.

Helpful… 😒

I'm struggling to think of anything that isn't just their personality tbh.

Erm...my daughters wanted longer hair than their brother so nits were more of an issue

As babies, boys wee into the air; girls wee underneath so you may not know they’ve wee’d themselves during nappy change till you pick them up.

other than that, no difference.

I think you're looking for problems that don't need to be there. They are children. They have their own personalities. Why do you think you have to treat them differently because of their gender?

My boys have penises and my girl has a vagina.

Can't think of any other differences really.

@BirthdayRainbow im not looking for problems. If you read my post PROPERLY you’ll see I’m saying we are very blessed after the history we have!

the other posters have given great examples. Like peeing etc..
Not everything is a negative thing. This was to be a very sincere and genuine post and you’ve tried to turn it into something it isn’t.

I have one of each.

There's no difference.

I wanted a girl, I got a girl & I’m over the moon with my girl.

However, seeing my friends with girls v boys, girls are way harder. More drama, more hormones etc. boys are easier but I love having a girl.

Teen girls imo are worse too🤣

People treat them differently

Hormones ? Before the teen age years ?!?

Thanks to those of you that have genuinely replied - I’m pleasantly surprised that there’s no differences!
other than the peeing situation of course… that’s going to be interesting and probably less messy our DS peed on himself several times in those first few months 🤣

Also - when baby girls poo, be sure to wipe front to back to keep poo out of their vulva. And you’ll need to wipe a bit, further? Harder? Carefully? Than you would with a boy to make sure the poo is out.

Oh yeah I already had the hormones talk with DH!

i do think they get treated so differently in friend circles too.. girls seem to have it harder at school imo.

My daughter projectile peed.

OP, I'm with the poster who says not to treat them differently.

it was less about treating them differently, and more about what natural differences to expect..

I can honestly say my younger daughter and son can equal each other with moodiness - only difference with my daughter is you can predict when she's going to be moody as it's related to her cycle.

My younger daughter was also the biggest daredevil out of my three - the kid we took to a & e the most.

No I haven't. Parenthood is hard enough. Why assume something unnecessary when there's enough to be getting to grips with.

Cool. I have two daughters and one did projectile and one did underneath. My son wee’d into the air. I mean neither is “correct”, it’s just an observation in response to the OP’s question.

I have a girl and a boy.

DH was an easy baby (perhaps because she was the first), sassy, confident and very independent. She has grown to be such a caring individual, she is a people person and likes attention in a none demanding way.

DS was a difficult baby, one the move from 4 months (maybe even before) and wanted to keep up with his sister, copied everything she did. He is full of energy, emotional (still a toddler), loud but prefers smaller groups of people, especially his little family.

I don't think my parenting style changed based on gender (minus clothing). It was more about their personality, I wanted my two to have a bond, which they do but they also like their space. Manners, thoughtfulness and empathy are important to me and I wanted to build that into my parenting on top of everything else.

I'd say go with the flow, work with their personalities rather than against and help them to bond.

Yes, this.

The only thing I can think of is that some little newborn girls can bleed a little bit, almost like a teeny period, because of the residual hormones from the mother. I didn't know that before they mentioned it at a NCT class I went to.

Other than the literal biology of their genitalia, can't think of anything else.

People subconsciously treat girls as more fragile than boys... more likely to tell them to be careful or fuss when they are hurt, more likely to worry about them getting messy etc and they can pick up on this. (And before anyone jumps as this... studies have been done!)

But knowing this, you can act against it and praise your DD for being strong, or your son for being neat (and vice versa)

@Humptydumptydone thank you, so helpful. We actually bought very gender neutral clothing for DS (just because I’ve never been about the whole pink/blue style) so I’m hoping most of it will just get reused lol
I love your approach to it - I’ll keep that in mind. Thanks.

@Crimblecrumble1990 my DS bled a little in the first nappy or so too, I was terrified! But midwife said it was my hormones passing through. So happens to both genders I suppose?