How to remove DD (20)'s social media content from porn sites?

[lawn]

Gentle replies only please, we're feeling pretty fragile.

Yesterday DD's toxic ex sent me a link to a porn chatroom where guys have collected images and videos of DD from the age of 16 up to the present day. This is how we found out she'd been groomed at a young age to do some "camming", and that's the first thing we are processing (and accessing therapy for her to heal from).

We have found the Internet Watch Foundation tool for removing the under-18 content but the old videos or DD are all collected together with TikToks from when she was 18 (account now deleted) and very recent holiday photos of her in a bikini etc from her current Instagram.

My question is, is there any way to get the over-18 social media content removed from these sites as well as the underage stuff? All the resources I've found so far are for nonconsensual sexual imagery, revenge porn etc. This is stuff she uploaded herself, but not as porn.

I realise this is generally a losing battle but at least want to give it a go. Does anyone have any links or experience of this, or know any organisations we can talk to?

Police would be my first port of call.

Police would be my first port of call and why can’t you say she is 17 in the ones you want removed.

If she uploaded it herself and she was over 18 you’ll have a hard time doing anything about it. Once you put something out there, it’s out there for anyone to pick up. One route is to claim the IP in the photo and report it on that basis (provided she took the pictures).

There are organisations that can ‘clean up’ an online existence. They are pricey but apparently good at it.

With AI everything is deniable.
I’d encourage her to work on her boundaries so she doesn’t get into another relationship like that or think camming is a good idea and act like they don’t exist.

@randoname makes a very good point. She has a malicious ex. She just has to shrug, mention that and say that AI is a horrible thing. Then move the conversation on.

Message the site owner with a DMCA request to have the content removed. State that’s the content was uploaded without the owners consent and contains images of a minor/below 18. You will probably have to do this for google images too as these sites generally appear there. You can also pay someone to do this for you and more effectively.

Thanks all. Not looking for general parenting advice for us or life advice for DD, we are working on all that, trust me. DD knows very well that camming was a terrible idea - she blames herself and has been living with guilt, shame and regret for 4 years, which breaks my heart. She also knows that her early sexual experiences have led to damaged boundaries, and we are talking a lot about this.

I'm looking at the IP/copyright issue - if anyone has any good links I'd be grateful, there's a lot to wade through.

We have warned the ex that we will be reporting him to the police for harassment if he has any further contact with her, but would they be able to help with the posting of DD's social media material on porn sites? Is there a crime we can point to there? I'm not sure we can lie about her age in the photos, especially the recent ones.

Report the underage and harassment to the police,ice. Is she still doing camera shots? Block the ex on your phone, ideally she needs to stop up,loading images on any social media sites, does she have privacy settings.

No she cammed with a stranger literally a couple of times age 16

Ex is blocked everywhere - we had to send him a warning as he kept creating new numbers and email addresses to contact her from. No contact received since he sent me the link

Yes her Instagram is now private and she deleted her TikTok long ago.

Any recommendations of services to help clean up her digital footprint gratefully received.

The harassment has stopped for now - we are ready to call police if it resumes. NSPCC/Internet Watch Foundation seem to have the underage material in hand.

So it's just the over-18 content we'd ideally like cleaned off the porn sites. We realise that may not be possible but we want to do what we can, for her peace of mind

It's easy to tell her to shrug it off, but we now know it's been holding her back from progressing in her life, career and relationships for 4 years. So along with the therapy, we'd like to demonstrate support for her by at least attempting to fight this stuff.

@lawn this may be of use?

https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/guides/revenge-porn#:~:text

I can't understand why you haven't already reported this?

Thanks so much @beetr00 It's tricky because the over-18 photos were not technically private, so I don't think it qualifies as revenge porn

To police? As I've said, I don't think posting public social media photos on porn sites is a crime? We've reported the underage stuff

You should be reporting him for stalking, the police take using different numbers when you've blocked them already very seriously. The cyber stalking and revenge posts from when she was a minor will just add to the case. I would definitely report him, even if it's not enough for charges now, if he carries on in any capacity after he's been warned by them he will be deep trouble.

Useful info, thanks

Firstly sorry you and your daughter are going through this, it sounds like you are doing your best to help her through it.

I don't have any specific recommendations however I listened to a radio program a while ago which suggested hiring a PR company to help on things like this, for example if her name is linked to the images they can help remove or at least move them down the internet search results a bit. I vaguely remember they said if you set up a whole load of new social media with boring photos of cute kittens or something similar then you can get them to pop up further up the search results if someone later googles you. I definitely think specialist services of some kind would really help, and someone up thread saying about AI making things more deniable now makes a good point.
All the best with it.

The underage stuff is distribution of child pornography so the police can and should pursue this.

Could this be used?
The right to be forgotten.

https://ico.org.uk/for-organisations/uk-gdpr-guidance-and-resources/individual-rights/individual-rights/right-to-erasure/

This is really helpful - and thank you so much for your kind words. Much appreciated

Thanks I'll look into this

Update: IWF require proof she was under age and advise doing this via police so we are going to do that.

Still need help with the over-18 material though and struggling to find a reputable company/organisation that might help.