10 year old girls attitude

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I don’t know what to do it’s giving me major anxiety I don’t know how to deal with her attitude
she acts like she hates me (not her dad) I do most of the parenting organisation and school runs dad gets fun bits weekend activities and holidays! (We are together but he works long hours mon-Thursdays 7-7
and then sports events Friday 8-5)
so I get the brunt of the mood swings she’s literally blanking me now from this morning as I tried to help her with organising what she needed this morning and she was kicking off saying she couldn’t find stuff even though I’d told her to do it Sunday to which I got yes yes I know
clear she didn’t
told her where stuff was (still couldn’t find it)
is now ignoring me and hates me because apparently I am awful and always mad!
how do I deal with this!!!

Welcome to the start of the teen world.

There is no excuse for her being horrible to you OP. What are the consequences of her behaviour?

Tell her she is perfectly welcome to be irritated or upset with you, but you absolutely, will not tolerate disrespectful behaviour from her, under any circumstances. If she can't manage to be cordial, she can stay in her room until she pulls herself together. From this day forward, disrespectful behaviour will have consequences.