Ex threatening to report me to social services because my front door was open.

[Dsmama24]

Hi all,
XH and I share one dc together. He was awful during the marriage and once I left him he made numerous false allegations straight after to SS and the police. Ss and police came to visit and had no concerns.

Despite that, I’ve tried my best to remain amicable regarding Co parenting. After he found out I was in a new relationship he has done nothing but try to sabotage it and successfully has done. He went from having dc 2 days a week to suddenly once every 2 weeks. He also kept demanding that new partner was not allowed at my flat when dc was present. Not because of safeguarding concerns, purely because he doesn’t want any other man around Dc. Even though he got remarried in secret back in his home country.

Today a baby sparrow flew into my flat while I was getting my washing in so I left the doors open while trying to get it out. When XH returned DC who had been staying with him since yesterday (he turned up 30 mins early) and started ringing me saying he was outside and why the hell was my door open. I explained I was inside and trying to get this bird out.

He has now sent a message stating he has safeguarding concerns because my door was open when he came to drop off dc and that anyone could have broken in (I was inside the whole time) and that he had reported me to social services because of it 😩

What can I expect? Would SS come out for such a thing? Thanks in advance :)

Well my neighbour tried to report me for worse multiple times. They never came out. They just talked to me on phone.. So hopefully just that

They will likely flag him up as being a cunt... Stop worrying..

He’s ridiculous, they won’t come out

I doubt CYPSS would give a tiny shite. I know it depends where you live but in my LA area, a child being on fire seems to be the kind of threshold that's needed for CYPSS to assess.

What's CYPSS?

SS will not follow this up

Oh, please. SS will roll their eyes to the point they nearly fall out and close the file. They have zero interest in being used in petty point-scoring.

I imagine they won't do anything but I would stop replying to him. It's your home and you do not need to explain to him why the door is open. It's of no concern to him whatsoever.

I'd start only responding if it's something you'd I either your DC.

SS will not be interested in this. They will feel he is doing this for malicious reasons

Just ignore his bullshit. He's making himself look stupid.

Wow OP an open door a wild bird and an EX turning up early. SS have more things to deal with.
What's next you go shopping next week and get home 5 mins before contact ends and he rings to inform them you were out when he dropped his DC off early and had to wait for you.
Ignore at worst they will call you.

Nothing will happen. It's ludicrous anyway - your DC wasn't in the house but in the car outside? We have gone out and realised when we got back that no one even shut the door when the house was empty! No one will care and your ex is just trying to upset you.

You need to grey rock him.

social services have thresholds. This is so far below it and would likely just annoy them.

I leave my door open loads.

Children and young people social services

Let him make a fool of himself

Stop engaging with him. Him asking why your door is open just doesn't warrant a response.

How does he know you have a new partner?

😂😂😂

what's he accusing you of not safeguarding ? The fridge??

HE had your child at the time

id let him crack on reporting stupid shit and making an utter fool of himself.

He has no right to dictate who is in your home. Next time you meet someone don't let his nonsense fuck it up!!

Just say “Okay…” and get on with your day. Don’t let him in your head.

Thanks all, definitely think it’s because I told him if he was going to reduce his contact with dc I would be going to cms( even if he was having dc 2 days a week, he’s been paying less than half the amount he should pay).
In the last few weeks he’s threatened to report me because dc had scratched himself and had a small scratch on his face. Also because I bought dc new shoes which he insists are too big (despite his other pair which are the exact same model in the size below becoming too small for him).
It’s just awful having to know I have to deal with this CF for another 15 years. Feel like he will try and sabotage any future relationship I may get into. He’s a Muslim so believes I can only ever remarry a Muslim and have no future partners around dc :(

Every time you get a stupid text from him like this either ignore, or just send a thumbs up emoji.

He's an ex. You don't have to justify anything to him. He doesn't control what you do. I've worked in safeguarding and we would have made a note against him for this. It will be recorded that he makes repeated vexatious or false accusations. He's doing himself more harm than you.

@Treelichen

mines open (wide open) from when I wake up to when I go to bed. I only shut it when I shower or go out!!

No small kids to worry about now though

Wouldn’t worry it creates a pattern of ridiculous complaints there not stupid and will see it for what it is

the thing is they probably will be obliged to follow it up but I would presume it would just be a phone call giving advice on safety and keeping the door shut to cover there arse and enable them to close the case

Yep. CMS. No excuses.

If you had no children in your care at the time I imagine they will not care at all.