Bedtime

[purpledelicious]

Please help, bedtime routine. We have an 11wk old baby and we have been trying to get her to sleep every night from about 7 to 11pm. She does not go down, we have tried baths, then feed, then the boobie, then walking up and down the room, lullabies, again boobie. She will sleep on the boobie, I will put her down and then she will wake up 10 mins later and she will be calling out for me. When my husband tried to settle her, she cries. I am never sure whether she is hungry or whether she wants comfort. She does not like the pacifier. What should I do?

I know it's too early to establish a routine, but I am just trying to gently chill out during the evenings so she sleeps, otherwise she sleeps at 11pm.

I do not want to be rigid, but I do need some advice on what to do!

I think she is still wanting to cluster feed and be with you in the evenings, and I think that's normal (fourth trimester). I would go with it for now. She is still so tiny. Feeding to sleep is biologically normal.

Cluster feeding. Totally normal. 3 of mine would be snoozing on the boob till 10.30pm at this age, so I'd settle down with feeding pillow and stick a DVD on. They just wouldn't settle. All 3 moved to 8pm bed time around 4 months, which was much better! DC4 was a bit easier - she's sleep in the sling rather than actually on the boob. Still mostly not in her cot till at least 10pm.

Some babies can be out down. Most can't. They grow out of it fairly quickly, you just need to find ways of making yourself comfortable till it passes.