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Having wine while my kid is in bed

52 replies

yvonneb13 · 18/05/2024 02:35

Basically that I have a 1 year old 16 months to be exact and I'm currently still up finishing my bottle of wine and watching tv DP getting up with son in morning so no need to panic but I was talking to my mum friends on the group chat and more than half said I shouldn't be drinking incase DS needs me!! So I guess aibu or are they examples they gave if he suddenly becomes unwell ect I just think it's so stupid why can't we enjoy a drink when our kids are asleep???

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Runnerinthenight · 18/05/2024 02:39

As long as one of you could react in an emergency, no problem! Being a mum is hard enough if you can't have the odd few glasses of wine!

Blahdeblah12345 · 18/05/2024 02:39

You have a DP who is getting up in the morning and who I presume can deal with any issues if they arise? Enjoy your wine!

Charlie2121 · 18/05/2024 02:41

I’d always want to make sure at least one of us was fit to drive in case of emergency. If DP isn’t drinking then I don’t see any issue.

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peanutbuttertoasty · 18/05/2024 02:42

They are neurotic! 🍷 💃🏻

SpringerFall · 18/05/2024 02:52

peanutbuttertoasty · 18/05/2024 02:42

They are neurotic! 🍷 💃🏻

They are and you don't have to join them, this someone said something now I am choosing to feel judged gets old

Blahdeblah12345 · 18/05/2024 03:08

Not once in 12 years have I ever had to deal with any issue or emergency after drinking or needed to drive anywhere. Imagine all the relaxing nights with wine I would have denied myself if I had taken your friends advice 😄

OmuraWhale · 18/05/2024 03:09

Don't worry OP - it's fine.

Em4815 · 18/05/2024 03:11

You need a different mum group!

BusterGonad · 18/05/2024 03:40

I hate mums like this.

PoppingTomorrow · 18/05/2024 03:49

Of course you can have wine - "finishing my bottle" though makes it sound like you're having a whole bottle on the reg?

Topseyt123 · 18/05/2024 04:23

Of course they are neurotic. This is what wine was invented for.

Readytoevolve · 18/05/2024 04:27

They probably drink themselves but they prefer to mum shame and virtue signal to make themselves feel better about their own likely drink problem.
Dickheads!

Chickenuggetsticks · 18/05/2024 05:56

It took me until Dd was 1 to have a drink and that was on the caveat DH didn’t. I quickly let go of that.

Also if any demographic deserves a drink it’s people with children under 5.

Meadowfinch · 18/05/2024 06:22

One of you needs to be sober, to wake up in an emergency or to do a hospital dash.

Christmas Eve 2010 still lives in my nightmares. DS aged 2, got swine flu, was admitted to paed icu, no ambulances available and the gp said we "couldn't afford to wait".

I'm a single mum so I only drink on nights when ds is away. That's about 20 a year 🙁. DS is bigger than me now but I still do it,. Good for my waistline though, I suppose.

fuckssaaaaake · 18/05/2024 06:33

You don't need to always make sure one is sober at all. If you go to a wedding or birthday would only one drink? I'm not saying get wasted but it's really ok, there's these things called taxis which can take you anywhere you like. No one is getting seriously drunk when they have to parent at some point the next day bug a few drinks is fine. Gawd

CadyEastman · 18/05/2024 06:40

They sound bloody awful and very uptight. In the very rare event that there was an emergency there is another parent in the house. And if both of you have had a drink, there are always taxis.

I've had to take DS to the emergency Doctor a couple of times in the night when he was younger but he was already ill and had taken a turn for the worse. Obviously I didn't drink if he was ill so I was fine to drive on those nights.

TTPD · 18/05/2024 07:02

I don't drink at all anymore but I think they're being ridiculous.

I never really felt the need to make sure I could drive either. Maybe because my DH isn't allowed a licence due to medical reasons, so they are reasonably frequently left in the care of someone who isn't able to drive them to hospital in an emergency. If it's such a problem, I'd never be able to leave them with him.

Remaker · 18/05/2024 07:09

The only time I’ve heard of someone being over the limit when their child needed assistance was my friend whose 15yo went to a party and got drunk and vomited everywhere. The host called my friend to come and get her DS but she and her DH were out with friends and couldn’t drive. They had to get a cab and were both a bit pissed which meant she didn’t get too mad at her DS but she was worried it looked like she was setting a bad example! She really isn’t the type to drink a lot just bad timing.

Loadofbobbins · 18/05/2024 09:04

I will happily have a drink at home most of the time. Only time I won’t is of DD is unwell, as we’ve had to make a couple of emergency out of hours GP trips with her in the past.

Grandmasswagbag · 18/05/2024 09:09

Only on MN have I ever heard of people not drinking when the kids are in bed, or even taking it in turns with their partner to have a drink incase of some kind of emergency. Some people don’t drive. I don’t know how they think they manage life.

PotatoPudding · 18/05/2024 09:09

My friend and her husband used to hit the wine as soon as the kids were in bed. When their youngest was still a baby, she started having breathing difficulties in the early hours. They were too pissed to drive her to the hospital and had to wake a neighbour to take them.

ConfusedKoala13 · 18/05/2024 09:21

I'm a single parent - I would never be able to have a drink according to the holier than thou crowd apart from every 6 weeks when my kids go to their dad's.
I don't drink much but if I do there are taxis & I'm 5 mins from hospital and it's a couple of glasses of wine or pimms not 2 bottles of whiskey and passing out. (Mine are now 13 & 9 but were 3 & 4 months when dad left)
Enjoy your weekend OP and let DH take care of any major incidents.

MetalFences · 18/05/2024 09:39

PotatoPudding · 18/05/2024 09:09

My friend and her husband used to hit the wine as soon as the kids were in bed. When their youngest was still a baby, she started having breathing difficulties in the early hours. They were too pissed to drive her to the hospital and had to wake a neighbour to take them.

So it all worked out fine then. Confused

Making sure one person does not ever drink in case of an emergency is madness.

liveforsummer · 18/05/2024 09:44

Blahdeblah12345 · 18/05/2024 03:08

Not once in 12 years have I ever had to deal with any issue or emergency after drinking or needed to drive anywhere. Imagine all the relaxing nights with wine I would have denied myself if I had taken your friends advice 😄

Same. Surely it's pretty rare to have something spontaneous that can't wait til the morning. In that circumstance I'd probably get a taxi anyway if an ambulance wasn't available: What about people that can't drive or don't have a car. What do the mum friends think of them?!

YouwouldthinkIhavemoresense · 18/05/2024 09:47

BusterGonad · 18/05/2024 03:40

I hate mums like this.

Yeah me too. The chair of our PTA is like this. And such a jobsworth.

Hate it.