MIL opening oven whilst holding baby

[Beepboops]

Yesterday I was round my in-laws and my MIL was holding my 2 week old. She was cooking at the time and I'm fairly sure she went into the kitchen and I heard the sound of the oven opening.

I am not ok with this. I don't know why on earth she would risk doing something like this when she could have easily dropped her onto the oven or floor? What do I say to her the next time I see her?

You’re thinking way too much into this! It’s not an issue!

It's very very unlikely she will drop her onto the oven door or floor in a freak accident. This wouldn't be an issue for me.

YABU- presumably the woman raised at least one child without dropping them into an oven so I think you'll be ok.

It's still not sitting right with me, and I'm her Mum.

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Was the oven hot? I used to be worried about the heat rushing out onto the baby if I did this so always put them down. But i might have been over thinking this when I had newborns!

It's not. She's my third.

Fucking hell way to make a Mum feel supported

OK and?

Nothing. Your baby is fine. You will come across as paranoid and irrational

Well, freak accidents are highly unlikely, but they do happen. We don’t have to live our lives fearing that a tree branch will fall on our car at precisely the right angle to impale us. But we can avoid the more likely scenarios, like falling while running with scissors.

Have you really never opened your own oven holding your baby, by number 3?!
I cannot understand how not. I have my second newborn and today I opened mine whilst holding her and breastfeeding. I'm not going to unlatch her after it took many attempts to get her latched on and toddler needs his tea too. Think you're being a bit precious here.

If you were concerned at the time why didn't you ask or discuss it then?

I really wouldn't like this at all. As someone has already said, there's definitely a rush of heat as the oven door is opened.
If you can, I'd mention it to your MIL next time you see her and ask her not to do it again.

I have three children, I'd never hold a baby while opening the oven.

It's easy enough to put them down

Apart from the risk of dropping them, I don't fancy having their sensitive skin exposed to heat or for their lungs to breathe in gas if it's a gas oven.

I need two hands to move most things in and out anyway.

It's not about making you feel supported, it's about saying it's not an issue.

If it's your third, I presume she's dealt with your other two? How's that been?

This confuses me. You don't even know for sure that she did this as you were not in the room.

She could've not even entered the kitchen. She could've entered the kitchen but done something completely different (not oven-related). She could've just cracked the oven open 2cms for a quick peek.

But if you're not ok with it then surely you just say something when she returns, like 'did you just open the oven while holding Jemima? I'm not sure that's safe, I'm happy to take her back while you finish up'.

My oven’s not low on the floor but up high near my face and it’s fan-forced so you feel like your eyebrows and lashes are melting whenever you open the bastard thing. Of course it’s too hot for a baby. Your MIL is an idiot.

Yeah I wouldn't like this either

Unless she’s a fragile old woman, I don’t really see the risk to dropping baby, HOWEVER; a bigger concern is the hot vapor that would come from a hot oven upon opening it.

everytime I open our over, I have to do so carefully because otherwise I would risk burning the hairs on my arms/face.

But you weren’t in the room to know what she did… she might have put the baby down to open it? To still be worrying about something that might have happened/ hasn’t caused and incident means you need to talk to her because you don’t trust her and need to find a way to move forward

Did you say anything to her at the time?

I did this once. No big deal. You hold your baby away from the heat. No bigger risk of dropping them compared to any other time you’re holding them and doing something else with one hand.

I've done this loads of times.

With my own child!!!