MIL opening oven whilst holding baby

[Beepboops]

Yesterday I was round my in-laws and my MIL was holding my 2 week old. She was cooking at the time and I'm fairly sure she went into the kitchen and I heard the sound of the oven opening.

I am not ok with this. I don't know why on earth she would risk doing something like this when she could have easily dropped her onto the oven or floor? What do I say to her the next time I see her?

Well you’re not being rational. Anxiety?

It's your rules, your child- but you can't juts assume everyone will support you and be kind with their comments- many people don't agree with you, and don't see the issue- that's not a pile on it's other people being allowed an opinion. You do have an issue with it, so tell MIL that's not what you find acceptable

Were you there?

Next time I would say firmly. "Mil you are busy, I'll hold the baby"

As your saying it do it. That way she doesn't get time to respond.

I have burned my baby (Dc2) whilst opening the oven. It was a minor burn but because he was a small baby I was reported to social services. I had follow up checks on the baby’s welfare etc.
I was so deeply upset and will never ever do anything like this again. Baby is a toddler now and fine and has no scarring.

I completely understand your concerns OP and wouldn’t like it either.

Just ask her

I wouldn’t open an oven door whilst holding a baby, that blast of heat is pretty intense and worse if it’s steamy.

Is this meant to be an insult? So what if it WAS the first born. Mum's instinct is saying this isn't safe so she's asked here for advice.

This

Your instincts are INCREDIBLY powerful at this stage. Follow them.

where would you put a baby down in a kitchen?

Do you take your child in the car, OP? The chances of you having an accident doing that are far higher than your MIL chucking them into the oven. Do you just dislike your MIL and want to have a go?

She shouldn’t have done it but you knew she was cooking while holding your baby.

MIL sounds confident around babies and probably held her own or other grandkids, nieces etc whilst cooking dinner. Some babies hate being put down and you learn to do everything with one hand holding them. I avoided holding hot drinks over the top of them but the risk of falling whilst standing by the oven and therefore dropping baby is vanishingly small.

Heavens, I’ve cooked three course meals while holding a baby.

OP you sound quite anxious. Your baby, your choice of course but i don’t think your MIL has done nothing bad here. Is there a backstory to this?

I wouldn’t mention it, the time to say anything for something so minor was at the time. If she was to do it again and you felt uncomfortable either say “I’d prefer you not to open the oven” or before she does if she’s going to just say “pass me the baby I’ll hold her while you check on food” or offer to check on the food for her

There was a short period in my life when I did everything whilst holding a baby, including cooking a full meal. Both babies survived unscathed.

Getting strong Hansel and Gretel vibes here.
Did she marinate you baby by any chance?

That's not how this works though, and that's a good thing. If someone is talking rubbish they should be told its rubbish as opposed to sparing their feelings. You wanted validation, sorry you didn't get it. That's life.

This! I used to do it all the time, it was the only way to get anything done at that stage

This

I agree. Get your child’s father to tell he though

I imagined she turned slighted or just opened it a bit to look in. She's raised a child already remember.

I don't think it's necessary to hold a baby while you deal with an oven, maybe if you're the mum and you're stuck doing 50 things at once with no support, but no need in this situation.
The heat rush is not nice so why do it.

Getting in a car is different cos it's necessary.

If she's caring I think you could tell her you'd rather she didn't and she'd respect that.

You don't even know what happened 😳

I have a friend who burnt her young child getting something out of the oven. I'm not going to over egg It - it wasn't a serious injury, it required A&E but the baby was treated and sent home same day.

So I don't think you're being precious. I think others are precious thinking they can't possibly put their baby down for a single minute of the day that they should need to be holding the baby to get something out the oven 🙄let alone be in a room with other adults, as per this example, and simply can't pass the baby to someone else to hold.

@Toquitit 👏