MIL opening oven whilst holding baby

[Beepboops]

Yesterday I was round my in-laws and my MIL was holding my 2 week old. She was cooking at the time and I'm fairly sure she went into the kitchen and I heard the sound of the oven opening.

I am not ok with this. I don't know why on earth she would risk doing something like this when she could have easily dropped her onto the oven or floor? What do I say to her the next time I see her?

I agree that it's not ideal to hold a baby while cooking, as there are risks paricularly from the stove and oven. You knew she was cooking, so why was she the one holding the baby, when there was at least one other adult present?

You should’ve said something at the time. A bit weird not to tbh. If you think something is unsafe for your baby, pipe up.

It doesn’t matter what we think, clearly you have an issue with it. Not sure how you bring it up now.

personally I wouldn’t be that bothered. Obviously don’t open a hot oven near a babies head

Way overreaction !

Our oven expels huge heat when we open the door, we all keep well back from it. So I can understand why you would be concerned. I expect MIL would have put baby down for a second whilst she opened the door. All is well, baby is fine, try it to worry about it.

No. Because I only open the oven door to remove something from it and I'm hardly going to do that one handed whilst holding a baby.

How is it an overreaction when op didn't react!? she doesn't feel comfortable with it and it's sense checking her pov

If they're asleep in your arms, it is.

I've needed to do it, and I've simply opened the door a fraction to let the rush of hot air out first.

I would hate this, especially with such a tiny baby. All the derogatory 'pfb' comments ... so what?!? We all get our turn to be 'pfb' (if we're lucky!) so to call someone out on it when you did it yourself is horrid.

Why is taking great care of your precious tiny baby something to mock?

I wouldn't let anyone walk around with my baby at that age, except from my husband of course.

Yes she is. She didn’t see anything, she doesn’t even know if her MIL did open the oven.

If it happens next time, be in the kitchen with her if she's holding the baby.

They would have survived if you popped them on the floor briefly as well.

Personally I think constantly holding a baby is more PFB than wanting them kept away from an oven.

@Beepboops

supported? People aren't obliged to support people acting nuts.

why the hell is she suddenly going to drop a baby into the oven?? And how??

I always stand back from the oven when I open it to avoid the rush of heat. Maybe your MIL did the same thing.

What do you want from this thread though?
some will agree, some will disagree. You are pushing back on the people who disagree.

None of us can have a word with your MIL for you.

@Beepboops I sympathise with you on this. My MIL, whilst ‘in charge’ of my 2yo decided to tell her to stand in the back door whilst she swapped cars around in the driveway. We were in the living room oblivious. It’s not just the act, it’s the doing something risky and unnecessary when you are there. And like others have said, my fan oven chucks out loads of heat sometimes, like I need to step back. Not great for a baby at all.

I think we're agreeing with each other.
I'm saying it's one of those things where you'd do it if you have to and be careful, but otherwise you'd avoid it because why take a risk of you don't need to. You've just given a slightly different example that's all.

I think hearing the oven door open is good enough to think it has happened. I still think all op is done is all a question though. But I see why you think differently.

I am genuinely surprised so many people would apparently open a hot apparatus holding a newborn?! Wtf. Such an odd thing to do. Baby needs to be placed safely down, let alone the heat blast she can skip on the fucking floor! Your MIL sounds moronic