I often read on MN that an absent father is better than an inconsistent one but does that depend on circumstances? What if the RP has no family? I often worry about my children only having me. I have no family and please don't suggest friends it's not the same and there are often posts on here from people saying don't expect your friends to care about your kids. I worry about my children not having any family around them. My ex is completely useless and constantly lets the kids down but is it better than not seeing him at all? People have told me not having him around is better.