Cancel child maintenance?

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Wasn’t sure where to post this and didn’t want to post in Aibu. But is it wrong to cancel a child maintenance case when it’s literally pennies? Just had the annual review through and it’s £6.72 a week for my children, just seems like an insult more than anything. It’s been this way since we split but the reminders make me angry how pathetic it is. I see posts saying it’s the children’s money and they have a right to the money, but £6.72 a week? Who really needs that it pays for nothing.

Also, by not having experience of it, I meant the child maintenance system. When my children's father and I were separated, we sorted it between us without involvement from the system and when he wasn't working, it was a pittance that he gave me but I was grateful to receive it as it meant that I only went without food for 1 day instead of 3

And if the OP was suggesting that she or her children were going to go hungry by deciding not to claim the £6 a week people would have even stronger opinions.

However, since that's clearly not the case your experience isn't giving you any insight into her situation whatsoever.

The more I think of it I find that your last comment about a non-claiming RP being as bad as a non-paying NRP is actually downright offensive to the OP and anyone else who chooses not to claim maintenance that they don't need (or for safety reasons as that's a common reason not to claim).

When that money could be sitting there accumulating and can go towards something when they are older then yes she is depriving them of a little extra.
Yes in this case it doesn't amount to life changing money or enough for a college fund or something substantial but still money that is rightfully to be used for the benefit of the children

It’s not their money. It’s hers. Should she choose to claim it.

She’s not depriving them of anything because she is paying for all of the things that maintenance is supposed to cover.

I am sorry for you that you have taken offence my comment but that is not my fault.
It doesn't matter if she is managing to feed and clothe her kids, it doesn't matter if she is bringing in 6 figures a year. The father has the responsibility to pay something towards his children. Unfortunately some fathers have to be forced to cough up and no matter if the mother can manage without it, that money is for the children. Maybe mothers who don't want the father's money should be allowed to request it be payed to hmrc to cover some of the child benefit that they receive.

So you would be happy if you were paying child maintenance to the main carer of your children and they were spending it on holidays for themselves or £100 hair extensions instead of improving the quality of life of the children because it's their money not the children's?

If the OP spends £100 on a holiday or hair extensions then that’s up to her because it’ll be coming from her money. Not from the surplus of the £6 a week contribution made by her ex to their children’s upbringing.

Im not engaging any further with your silly posts as it’s just detailing the OPs thread.

and to be Frank the mention of hair extensions just makes you sound like a classic MRA.

Have no idea what an mra is.
I wasn't talking directly about the op when referring to holidays and hair extensions.
Let's say that a single mother just covers living expenses with her own income. Kids have the basics, food, clothes, roof. Father pays child maintenance. Mother goes on holiday leaving kids with a relative. Kids have never been on holiday. Mother couldn't have afforded the holiday on her income.
As the father, would you not say, that money is to be spent on the kids. The kids are missing out on extra curricular activities.

If you cancel it he will just get to keep all of his benefits to himself. Don't give him the satisfaction. Put it into account for DC.

Just came accross this post today after sending a message to cancel CMS, I've had 13 years of no pay, £3.33.... Because I'm sick ans tired of the letters and emails. He did pay for a brief stint of 6 months at around 40pw... but went back to 3.33. They took the money direct from wages.

But I get 0 and he is self employed ans registers to benefits but doesn't show up so in the end it's 0. It's like the lottery someone will get back paid £40000. Because they take it our their account but I've never met anyone who's been that lucky and I've met more than one jackpot winner in my life time.

I feel like I claimed because I wanted to be able to at least say he provides... but he doesn't Because he pays nothing.. ..

So I just put it in today, saying what's the point. It shouldn't have to get to 14 years before they act, it should be televent to tbe amount they pay. If they ate only paying £3 then when it hit £30] they should be acting differently, doing the most nit waiting for it to hit it takes.