I split up with my ex 6 months ago. He ended things suddenly when we were thinking of buying a house together, as he felt he didn't want to commit long term to my 2 children. I was absolutely blindsided and devastated as it was so sudden. I was very happy with him, and at 38 had never had a relationship where I'd been so in love. Although I'm better now than I was 6 months ago, I still think about him a hell of a lot and pine over what could have been. I feel I should hate him as he said some unpleasant things when he broke up with me, which were really out of character for him, as he always seemed so nice and good with my kids. He said he didn't like my 9 year old daughter and found her rude and unpleasant and said he felt like he would end up wanting to hit her if we lived together. (Again, completely out of character as that wasn't in his nature at all). She can sometimes be a bit of a madam, but then she's a child...so it's normal to some degree. He also said that he would end up resenting and hating me and them. These words still go round and round in my head, even after 6 months, as up until that moment I felt he was the perfect boyfriend and have so many lovely memories with him. How can I get over him and stop obsessively thinking about him. It was out of order for him to say that wasn't it? It was almost like he'd had a personality change